this woman’s work

Honestly I think the teleflora snafu is idiotic and ridiculous but it doesn’t make me nearly as unhappy as HB 7 going down. It just doesn’t offend me the way governmental prejudice against adopted people does.

I know in some ways one is a reflection of the other. Adopted kids — and the adults they grow up into although in the eyes of the world they’re always adopted children — just aren’t as “real” as people who get to grow up in their families of origin. The only reason non-mom would ever bother me (because honestly I don’t give a damn what people call me) is that it’s indicative of the disrespect that society has about our kids. It doesn’t hurt me to be called a non-mom but it sure as hell would hurt Madison to hear me dismissed and this whole “one of her own” (aside from the offensive “meth babies”) is also hurtful.

So I know that this is a reflection of why birth certificates are falsified and the real records sealed up tight. I know that but I just wish I saw as much outrage about closed records as I’m seeing about some stupid mother’s day promotion. And I wish that our representatives were as quick to respond as the folks at teleflora (although honestly, teleflora? I don’t see how you can make this right — it was such a misguided thing to do and the fact that your president is an “adopting” parent herself makes me really wonder where the hell everyone’s head was at). They put up the lame apology, they’ll likely — one hopes — change the “meth baby” reference and rethink the whole stupid category organization anyway, and their PR folks are commenting on blogs read to hear us. (Scroll down and you can see she’s introduced herself in the comments on the post.)

But our elected reps? They don’t give a damn.

It’s depressing.