Open Adoption stuff
Sep 22, 2008 Adoption
Three new questions up over at Open Adoption Support!!! Questions include: advice for an expectant mom thinking about placement, how to manage holidays and adopting older kids from foster care.
Also, got word that my panel proposal for the American Adoption Congress conference in Cleveland next spring is a go!
Open Adoption: Promises and Truth
Sunday, April 26th 2009
8:45am to 10am
I’m working to line up some fab women (who perhaps you might know! I’m just sayin’!) to share their stories of living open adoption as first and adoptive parents, talking about their expectations before the adoption and the real life challenges and of course the need for more open adoption support.
Once I know for sure who will be there (I have fairly firm yeses from two) I’ll let y’all know.
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New question at Open Adoption Support
Jul 10, 2008 Adoption, Uncategorized
It’s one of those not open/open adoptions where the families are seeing each other but the child has no idea who the other family is. In other words, everyone knows that the visitors are the child’s first parents except for the child.
You can weigh in with advice over there.
I am always surprised by the way people say, “My child is fine” and the proof is that the child either had no more questions or didn’t bring the subject up again. Silence isn’t always golden. I really do think it’s our job to bring stuff up in a “Hey, do you ever think about…?” kind of way. I’m not talking about hounding the poor dears but if we don’t bring it up how will they know we’re willing to talk about it? We can’t put all the risk on our kids. We have to assume some (lots) of the uncomfortable discussion burden ourselves.
(Listen, the way that Noah is, if we didn’t periodically bring up adolesence and s-e-x talk the kid would think the storks found babies under cabbage leaves. It’s our job to make sure he isn’t forced to live in ignorance just because he’s too shy to ask.)
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Busy Monday
Jun 16, 2008 The Story of My Life
- Madison started guppy swim class this morning. She did great although there were some tears. What kills me about this kid is that she tries even when she’s crying. She’s so brave. She ended up having a great time — laughing, splashing and handing out high fives — but now she says she will never go again. I’m chalking it up to exhaustion because she’s also having a fit anytime goes every so slightly out of whack. Poor baby.
- I’ve got a lot of catch up from being off-site for three days last week and having the panel on Monday. I like being busy and I like having a long to-do list where I get to cross stuff off. It’s very satisfying.
- We’re watching a friend of Noah’s for most of this week. The kid is a delight and no problem whatsoever. However there’s a lot of tween energy ricocheting off the walls here and when it comes to tween energy, less is more.
- OpenAdoptionSupport.com has been busy this weekend. And someone posted a new FAQ today. A lot of discussion, most of which I don’t have time to address right now. Rats. Happily the community seems to be humming along just fine without me (as long as I’m around to make sure the tech stuff is functioning).
- I’ve drunk more in the past three weeks than I have in the past three years. What this actually amounts to is three hard cider drinks in the past three weeks — one each on Thursday. It’s Abby’s fault. I don’t think I’m at risk to actually become a lush though. At least, not yet.
- I may miss this Thursday for a work/fun event though. Depends on a whole host of things. Waiting to see about that.
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New tough question over at Open Adoption Support
May 26, 2008 Adoption
I’m hoping that those of you with foster-to-adopt experience can weigh in. Of course the situation is different than for a child placed at birth and this mom is trying very, very hard to do the right thing long-term for her son with very little support.
My son calls us both mommy. Am I doing right by him?
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A great question over at OAS
May 4, 2008 Adoption
I found my child’s first mom online; should I contact her?
If you’ve got a yen to answer it, please do!
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