Eli asked what Noah was going to be for Halloween and the answer is: I have no idea. He has no idea either. Last year he went as a spider, went to three houses, came home to change into his batman costume and finished out his trick-or-treat.
We went looking at costumes a couple of weeks ago. It was a bit of a disaster. There wasn’t anything that really looked good to him and then he saw a $17.99 Pikachu costume and said, “I’ll take that one.” Well, listen, there was no way in hell I was going to spend nearly $20 for a costume that he may end up wearing for 20 minutes if that. So I took him out of the Halloween area (we were at Target) and we sat down to talk about it.
Me: Listen, I want you to close your eyes and think about trick-or-treating. What costumes does it sound like will feel good to you? It doesn’t have to be something we’ve seen here, just let your imagination run away with you.
Noah: I just don’t know. I just don’t know.
Me: Well, let’s think about all the costumes you have at home. [He has, at last count, a zillion and two.] Maybe you can make something out of one of those.
(So we start listing the costumes and Noah begins perking up.)
Noah: I’ll be a vampire. I have those teeth and I have my batman cape.
So we left Target with a Halloween t-shirt and some nifty Halloween socks. (As an aside, why are there not cool decorated socks in the boys’ section? We found some great ones marked “girls” and he’s too young to care but it pissed me off. Boys like fun sock, too. On the same subject, don’t you hate that kids’ underwear aren’t equal opportunity? Like if a girl likes Power Rangers or a boy likes, I don’t know, Cinderella.)
Since that day, he has also thought about being a bat and batman (he was batman at his Halloween party) and there’s a marginal chance he’ll wear the Scooby Doo costume his grandmother got him two years ago but just now fits. I’m rooting for Scooby because it’s going to be really cold out and the costume is one of those plush ones with a hood.
He didn’t get that excited about dressing up this year; I’m not sure why. Maybe it’s because he dresses up all of the time anyway.
I have two kids and a delightfully odd husband, Brett. My children are Noah (born to us in 1997) and Madison (born to her first mom, Pennie, in 2004 and brought to our family through a domestic, open adoption). They are my inspiration and also the reason I don't get more done around here.
I'm a writer and sometimes I get published, which is a nice thing. I write for joy, I write for money and when I'm very lucky, both things happen at the same time. My work appears in national publications including Yoga Journal, Disney's Family.com, Utne, Wondertime, Brain Child and Salon. Currently I am working on a book about my daughter's adoption and seeking representation for the proposal. I also own Smart Cookie Communications with my husband.
Roni
October 31st, 2002 at 8:34 am
Amen on the sock/underwear equity! I find myself loving men’s socks much more than women’s. At least for the nice thick, warm wintery socks for my boots. Even the boot socks for women are too thin and girly. argh!
Robin R
May 21st, 2003 at 4:30 am
Hello. Oh how I feel for you all as I am in the same boat. I can totally relate to everything Dawn said, and I agree with Shana. I too almost hate becoming pregnant knowing that I am very likely to m/c wasting another baby’s chance at life. Ofcourse EVERYONE around me is pregnant right now. I hate to feel this way, but I can’t stand to see pregnant people right now, especially if I know them. I don’t hate them, it just reminds me of what I keep losing. I have a 14yr. old son from a previous relationship. I have been married for almost two years, have been pregnant three times, and do not have any children with my current husband. I’m starting to wonder if I have LPD. I know that I have a bicornuate (Abnormally shaped uterus) uterus, and that can have a major role in recurrent m/c, but I have carried to term atleast once with no problems, so I really don’t want corrective surgery. I just wanted to say that I know how all of you feel. Sometimes I have days where I walk around crying on the inside, trying not to let it out. I wish all of you the best in this physically and emotionally painful journey. God Bless.
Lucy
June 14th, 2003 at 9:20 pm
I can’t begin to imagine what this all feels like, but in a sense I can. I just had my second miscarriage this year. I am so devistated. My first was twins ans the first time I had ever been pregnant. This time it was only one. My doctor was great, he had me on progesterone right away and also had sent me for an ultrasound, we saw the heartbeat!!! We felt safer, but still I felt very apprehensive. I felt I couldn’t get excited just yet. Little did I realize that I was right, two weeks later at just before 9 weeks, no heartbeat this time. Just like before, no heartbeats. I just don’t understand. I have no children, I’m only 27 and healthy. The doctors started testing but I just don’t know what to do while I’m waiting. I will be preying for all of the rest of you. Does anyone have any suggestions or experiences they could share with me?