From Fruitful: A Real Mother in the Modern World by Anne Roiphe:
Feminism used to say that the personal is political. If so the personal grief of the children who need better mothering, who need better family, who need voices speaking for them is our new politics.
If, as it appears, children have paid the price for our feminist gains, we can expand our vision, recognizing the ancient rub between mother and child. Without capitulating to the religious right, without setting back the clock on female proress, without turning ourselves into brownie bakers, we have to address this hard uneasy tension between motherhood and feminism, otherwise it will return to haunt us in our children’s fates, in our politics. If our children are unhappy we cannot be happy
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I don’t know what the answers are but I wish we were talking more about the questions. By the way, I think baking brownies is dandy.
I have two kids and a delightfully odd husband, Brett. My children are Noah (born to us in 1997) and Madison (born to her first mom, Pennie, in 2004 and brought to our family through a domestic, open adoption). They are my inspiration and also the reason I don't get more done around here.
I'm a writer and sometimes I get published, which is a nice thing. I write for joy, I write for money and when I'm very lucky, both things happen at the same time. My work appears in national publications including Yoga Journal, Disney's Family.com, Utne, Wondertime, Brain Child and Salon. Currently I am working on a book about my daughter's adoption and seeking representation for the proposal. I also own Smart Cookie Communications with my husband.