Comments on: The BEST way to adopt http://www.thiswomanswork.com/adoption/the-best-way-to-adopt/ writing, mothering, writing about mothering Mon, 12 May 2008 08:48:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Michelle http://www.thiswomanswork.com/adoption/the-best-way-to-adopt/#comment-1162 Michelle Sun, 19 Jun 2005 00:08:21 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=558#comment-1162 Dawn, I wrote about this on my blog. Thanks for the topic idea. Dawn, I wrote about this on my blog. Thanks for the topic idea.

]]> By: Sarah http://www.thiswomanswork.com/adoption/the-best-way-to-adopt/#comment-1161 Sarah Sat, 18 Jun 2005 04:55:12 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=558#comment-1161 I've been thinking a lot lately about the ethics of adoption lately, especially single parent adoption. I'd never thought about it this way, but I think you may have hit the nail on the head here by phrasing it in terms of potential rather than inherent ethics. So domestic infant adoption might be the least ethical choice using the default settings (ie, when adoptive parents don't even consider ethics), but it may have the greatest potential for parents to influence the ethics of the choices made such that the final outcome might well be more ethical than other types of adoption. I realize that one can't really measure and compare ethics in quite that way, but it's a useful visualization for me. Thanks for making me think, as always. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the ethics of adoption lately, especially single parent adoption.

I’d never thought about it this way, but I think you may have hit the nail on the head here by phrasing it in terms of potential rather than inherent ethics. So domestic infant adoption might be the least ethical choice using the default settings (ie, when adoptive parents don’t even consider ethics), but it may have the greatest potential for parents to influence the ethics of the choices made such that the final outcome might well be more ethical than other types of adoption.

I realize that one can’t really measure and compare ethics in quite that way, but it’s a useful visualization for me. Thanks for making me think, as always.

]]> By: sster http://www.thiswomanswork.com/adoption/the-best-way-to-adopt/#comment-1160 sster Sat, 18 Jun 2005 02:24:16 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=558#comment-1160 I have struggled a lot with the question of whether or not adoption is the best response to the problem of poverty and parentless children. In some ways, though, it is almost the same question as what is the 'best' way to adopt. There are many possible responses to any social problem; in this case, adoption is a particularly (in my mind) good one. Is it as 'good' as pouring that same money into women's shelters and prenatal health programs? It's impossible to say. It's simply not measureable. What we DO know, however, is that a whole host of responses is needed, and not everyone can do all of them (no one can, really). For us, adoption is the best response we have. Will we still vote for universal health care and a healthier welfare system? Will we support and encourage others to work to bridge the class gap? Definitely. But adoption is our focus--not because it's the 'easy' option, but because it's the best option for our family. I have struggled a lot with the question of whether or not adoption is the best response to the problem of poverty and parentless children. In some ways, though, it is almost the same question as what is the ‘best’ way to adopt. There are many possible responses to any social problem; in this case, adoption is a particularly (in my mind) good one. Is it as ‘good’ as pouring that same money into women’s shelters and prenatal health programs? It’s impossible to say. It’s simply not measureable. What we DO know, however, is that a whole host of responses is needed, and not everyone can do all of them (no one can, really). For us, adoption is the best response we have. Will we still vote for universal health care and a healthier welfare system? Will we support and encourage others to work to bridge the class gap? Definitely. But adoption is our focus–not because it’s the ‘easy’ option, but because it’s the best option for our family.

]]> By: Kath http://www.thiswomanswork.com/adoption/the-best-way-to-adopt/#comment-1159 Kath Sat, 18 Jun 2005 00:12:40 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=558#comment-1159 You are my muse...here comes the word train. You are my muse…here comes the word train.

]]> By: LisaV http://www.thiswomanswork.com/adoption/the-best-way-to-adopt/#comment-1158 LisaV Fri, 17 Jun 2005 21:32:51 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=558#comment-1158 I have always been bothered by the fact that something so wonderful for us, was the source of someone else's pain. But I feel like I have a pretty good perspective on the context of the situation. I probably will write something about open adoption this weekend. I want sometime to think about it. I have always been bothered by the fact that something so wonderful for us, was the source of someone else’s pain. But I feel like I have a pretty good perspective on the context of the situation. I probably will write something about open adoption this weekend. I want sometime to think about it.

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