Comments on: Questions asked http://www.thiswomanswork.com/adoption/questions-asked/ writing, mothering, writing about mothering Mon, 12 May 2008 08:45:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: JustEnjoyHim/Judy http://www.thiswomanswork.com/adoption/questions-asked/#comment-5910 JustEnjoyHim/Judy Sat, 08 Sep 2007 22:17:21 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1585#comment-5910 When we were talking about Nate's story in family therapy, I told Nate that his birth dad wasn't with his birth mom after he got in her tummy, and he said, "how come?" I hesitated -- Dr. Smart Cookie looked at me and said, "it's OK to say 'I don't know,' so I said 'I don't know.'" I'm not saying that your situation with Madison is the same; this is Nate's story (and beyond that also not bloggable), but it gave me a great sense of relief just to feel like it's <strong>OK</strong> to say "I don't know." In fact, I say "I don't know" to him quite a bit, but in that case, with something SO important, I guess I wanted to have all the answers. But I don't. When we were talking about Nate’s story in family therapy, I told Nate that his birth dad wasn’t with his birth mom after he got in her tummy, and he said, “how come?” I hesitated — Dr. Smart Cookie looked at me and said, “it’s OK to say ‘I don’t know,’ so I said ‘I don’t know.’”

I’m not saying that your situation with Madison is the same; this is Nate’s story (and beyond that also not bloggable), but it gave me a great sense of relief just to feel like it’s OK to say “I don’t know.” In fact, I say “I don’t know” to him quite a bit, but in that case, with something SO important, I guess I wanted to have all the answers. But I don’t.

]]> By: Jenna http://www.thiswomanswork.com/adoption/questions-asked/#comment-5909 Jenna Wed, 05 Sep 2007 16:51:02 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1585#comment-5909 Thanks for the link to that book. Very cool.. Thanks for the link to that book. Very cool..

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