A number of bloggers have written about their open adoption resolutions or hopes for the coming year, but Debbie gets credit for suggesting it as a roundtable topic. And a great suggestion it is! Open adoption is all about relationships, after all. Most every relationship can benefit from periodically taking a step back and thinking about emotional or practical changes we'd like to make as we care for others and ourselves.
Call them resolutions, commitments, changes, or choices–how will you be proactive in the area of open adoption in 2010?
via Open Adoption Roundtable #12 : Production, Not Reproduction | A blog about open adoption.
Well, Jenna and I are going to write a book so that’s a biggie. Want to hear our working title? Ok:
Yours, Mine and Ours: How Openness is Changing Adoption in America
Someone got all over Jenna’s case for NOT writing an anti-adoption book but what that poster didn’t get was the subtleties of our method of reform. See, openness — true openness and not lip service paid to support agency advertising — confronts some basic and hard truths about adoption. If you’re truly committed to openness then you acknowledge some things that people used to NOT acknowledge about adoption. Like that kids aren’t blank slates. That the state doesn’t rule people’s hearts about who is in their family. That closed records are immoral. That people aren’t interchangeable.
We’re going to look at the realities of openness in foster-to-adopt, domestic infant adoption and international adoption. We’re not going to sugarcoat anything (I really want to look at the dearth of support) and we’re going to look at the research.
I just have to find the time to write my part of it. (sigh)
It’s gonna rock.
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I’m excited for your book and LOVE the title. I’m also thrilled to hear that you are going to look into openness in foster to adopt. I’ve been getting quite the eye opening recently and am pretty sad about the number of families who end contact completely after adoption of an older child. I’ve had many successful experiences with open adoption after foster care – even with some birth parents who were/are substance abusers, severely mentally ill, etc – which many think is a hard and fast reason to close contact. I look forward to hearing your findings/thoughts on the issue!
Sounds like this will be a great book; love that you are tackling the myths and hard questions.
That title rocks! and you guys rock for taking this on!!!
I too am excited for you and Jenna to write a book. I think you are the perfect combination of people to accurately look at the way openness is changing adoption as well as the need for reform!
It’s totally going to rock!
Great title and I hope it will be in every public library’s collection on adoption!
I am so excited the two of you are writing a book together! I can’t wait to read it, and buy it for all of my friends to read!
That title does completely ROCK! You know how I do love a good title, no?
Changing the world of open adoption, you two are. It’s so amazing to see this unfold.
Look at you, talking us up! I’d be fine just sticking my head in the sand after the verbal beating I took off the initial announcement.
I’m flabbergasted, of course, as to how people think that you and I wouldn’t cover it all. I mean, we’re us. C’mon!
Love the title! Can’t wait to see it! (and buy it!)
Aaaa I can’t wait! I happen to be a copyeditor, so if you need someone to read it before everyone else gets to…
Great title! Can’t wait to read the book.
And I thought you and Jenna both handled that commenter giving her a hard time really well.
BADASS!!!!
Muy excited
Lurve the title!
LOOOOVE the title. Can’t wait!!!
Please include a chapter on pullback because it does happen in open adoption. I think the same old issues are there in OA as in CA but the parties have more information about each other etc. I thought it would have solved or reduced many issues but I know from first hand experience that it’s not the case. Can’t wait to read your book…with Jenna
Jenna sorry for my last sentence. It should have read: I can’t wait to read Jenna and Dawn’s book. That’s what happens when you don’t proof read…dah
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