Comments on: The night my world caved in http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2009/02/18/the-night-my-world-caved-in/ dawn friedman's blog Fri, 30 Jul 2010 22:10:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: SassyCupcakes http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2009/02/18/the-night-my-world-caved-in/comment-page-1/#comment-23595 SassyCupcakes Thu, 14 Jan 2010 01:15:40 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=4643#comment-23595 This is such a brilliant post. As someone who wasted many years hating her perfectly beautiful heavier than others body before becoming really actually very fat, I really wish I could wave a magic wand and stop every girl from doubting their beauty & awesomeness for a second. As it is now I feel bad for feeling good about myself because clearly as a fat person I'm lazy, worthless and should feel horrible about myself. But I don't. I'd like to be 50kg lighter, my body has many flaws like dodgey ovaries and problems with my toes, but I like who I am and I'm not ashamed of how I look. I do worry though about how my weight could affect a child and how I could raise a little girl to see herself as beautiful despite what the outside world says. This is such a brilliant post. As someone who wasted many years hating her perfectly beautiful heavier than others body before becoming really actually very fat, I really wish I could wave a magic wand and stop every girl from doubting their beauty & awesomeness for a second. As it is now I feel bad for feeling good about myself because clearly as a fat person I’m lazy, worthless and should feel horrible about myself. But I don’t. I’d like to be 50kg lighter, my body has many flaws like dodgey ovaries and problems with my toes, but I like who I am and I’m not ashamed of how I look. I do worry though about how my weight could affect a child and how I could raise a little girl to see herself as beautiful despite what the outside world says.

]]> By: The night my world caved in | Blog Nosh Magazine http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2009/02/18/the-night-my-world-caved-in/comment-page-1/#comment-21081 The night my world caved in | Blog Nosh Magazine Wed, 29 Jul 2009 09:04:43 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=4643#comment-21081 [...] personal blog that deals with writing, adoption, and women’s issues. Her writing about body image is tough and real and I cave right in and fall into her words and understand. I read her daily and I [...] [...] personal blog that deals with writing, adoption, and women’s issues. Her writing about body image is tough and real and I cave right in and fall into her words and understand. I read her daily and I [...]

]]> By: Dawn http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2009/02/18/the-night-my-world-caved-in/comment-page-1/#comment-20841 Dawn Thu, 02 Jul 2009 02:13:44 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=4643#comment-20841 Tori, I'm hoping if I fake it, it'll eventually kick in. I was just talking to Noah about this because he read the entry from yesterday (about Madison calling me fat -- the one about being explicit) and I told him that it's still hard for me but I don't want it to be hard for Madison so I have to remind myself that basically the world has been telling me lies and I don't have to believe them. I was talking to him about it in part because I want him to be an advocate for Madison and other females he loves and will love and in part because I want him to know that he can do this, too, when the world comes calling and telling him something essential about himself is wrong. HANG IN THERE! Tori, I’m hoping if I fake it, it’ll eventually kick in. I was just talking to Noah about this because he read the entry from yesterday (about Madison calling me fat — the one about being explicit) and I told him that it’s still hard for me but I don’t want it to be hard for Madison so I have to remind myself that basically the world has been telling me lies and I don’t have to believe them. I was talking to him about it in part because I want him to be an advocate for Madison and other females he loves and will love and in part because I want him to know that he can do this, too, when the world comes calling and telling him something essential about himself is wrong.

HANG IN THERE!

]]> By: Tori http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2009/02/18/the-night-my-world-caved-in/comment-page-1/#comment-20840 Tori Thu, 02 Jul 2009 02:10:05 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=4643#comment-20840 Wow. I've been thinking about this same issue lately. I know there was a time in my life when I didn't care what my body looked like. When I didn't compare myself to every other female body around me. I know there must have been a time but I can not remember it. As far back as I can remember (as young as 8 years old) I have been criticizing my own body. I wish I could get back to that time when I was comfortable in my body. The problem is, I don't remember what that feels like and I'm afraid I'll never get there. Wow. I’ve been thinking about this same issue lately. I know there was a time in my life when I didn’t care what my body looked like. When I didn’t compare myself to every other female body around me. I know there must have been a time but I can not remember it. As far back as I can remember (as young as 8 years old) I have been criticizing my own body.
I wish I could get back to that time when I was comfortable in my body. The problem is, I don’t remember what that feels like and I’m afraid I’ll never get there.

]]> By: BakerLady http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2009/02/18/the-night-my-world-caved-in/comment-page-1/#comment-19992 BakerLady Wed, 08 Apr 2009 04:19:07 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=4643#comment-19992 Thank you for this post. My "moment" was when I went with my mom to a party at her work and I overheard her telling a coworker how much I weighed in a sad/disappointed tone. Thats when I realized that she was ashamed that I wasn't skinny like her. For years I have been worried that I will end up treating my children the same way, meaning well but hurting them. I am glad to hear that you have chosen the other route and that it is possible. Thank you for this post. My “moment” was when I went with my mom to a party at her work and I overheard her telling a coworker how much I weighed in a sad/disappointed tone. Thats when I realized that she was ashamed that I wasn’t skinny like her.

For years I have been worried that I will end up treating my children the same way, meaning well but hurting them. I am glad to hear that you have chosen the other route and that it is possible.

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