Comments on: I had a lot of bad dreams last night http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/06/01/i-had-a-lot-of-bad-dreams-last-night/ dawn friedman's blog Thu, 04 Dec 2008 02:41:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Dawn http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/06/01/i-had-a-lot-of-bad-dreams-last-night/#comment-15227 Dawn Mon, 02 Jun 2008 18:03:10 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=3372#comment-15227 Naomi, you know what I kinda love about this? It's got that ingrained pessimism that feels so dang familiar to me! Yeah, guess I ought to enjoy things while they last, right? ;) Naomi, you know what I kinda love about this? It’s got that ingrained pessimism that feels so dang familiar to me! Yeah, guess I ought to enjoy things while they last, right? ;)

]]> By: Naomi http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/06/01/i-had-a-lot-of-bad-dreams-last-night/#comment-15226 Naomi Mon, 02 Jun 2008 16:45:12 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=3372#comment-15226 I also experience the impulse to voluntarily attenuate my happiness in the hopes of avoiding punishment. It runs deep in me, and I'd like to share one of the strategies I use to defuse it. I try to cultivate the attitude that suffering needn't be sought, it will come because it's part of life. Still, if this moment happens to be the last of contentment before whatever misfortune might come next, isn't it better to enjoy it? I also experience the impulse to voluntarily attenuate my happiness in the hopes of avoiding punishment. It runs deep in me, and I’d like to share one of the strategies I use to defuse it. I try to cultivate the attitude that suffering needn’t be sought, it will come because it’s part of life. Still, if this moment happens to be the last of contentment before whatever misfortune might come next, isn’t it better to enjoy it?

]]> By: doris day http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/06/01/i-had-a-lot-of-bad-dreams-last-night/#comment-15223 doris day Mon, 02 Jun 2008 12:52:35 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=3372#comment-15223 I know when I have those anxiety-filled nights, it's always helpful for me to compartmentalize with the hope that some of the angsty stuff can be minimized. Once you're clear about the direction of your material for the speaking engagement maybe it will seem more manageable--I think it might help to remember that they called you (quite a while ago, right?) for this engagement, so they must be really interested in what you have to add. You've mentioned the friendship issue pretty frequently lately, and it doesn't seem to be getting any easier to manage. Maybe it would be a good idea to talk to the person? It might not make things "better" but it may make things clearer and easier to deal with in the long run. As for the rest, I think a lot of times it's hard to believe we've made our dreams a reality. Maybe you just need more practice. Good luck managing various anxieties--try to take comfort in knowing that most people think you're fabulous. I know when I have those anxiety-filled nights, it’s always helpful for me to compartmentalize with the hope that some of the angsty stuff can be minimized. Once you’re clear about the direction of your material for the speaking engagement maybe it will seem more manageable–I think it might help to remember that they called you (quite a while ago, right?) for this engagement, so they must be really interested in what you have to add.

You’ve mentioned the friendship issue pretty frequently lately, and it doesn’t seem to be getting any easier to manage. Maybe it would be a good idea to talk to the person? It might not make things “better” but it may make things clearer and easier to deal with in the long run.

As for the rest, I think a lot of times it’s hard to believe we’ve made our dreams a reality. Maybe you just need more practice.

Good luck managing various anxieties–try to take comfort in knowing that most people think you’re fabulous.

]]> By: mia http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/06/01/i-had-a-lot-of-bad-dreams-last-night/#comment-15218 mia Sun, 01 Jun 2008 22:00:38 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=3372#comment-15218 Enjoying contentment is my biggest struggle. Even though I know it may be well earned, when contentment sets in I start to hear that nagging voice telling me I should be doing MORE. Allowing ourselves to be happy may just be the most difficult lesson of life. Probably worth the effort though! Enjoying contentment is my biggest struggle. Even though I know it may be well earned, when contentment sets in I start to hear that nagging voice telling me I should be doing MORE.

Allowing ourselves to be happy may just be the most difficult lesson of life. Probably worth the effort though!

]]> By: Tina W. http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/06/01/i-had-a-lot-of-bad-dreams-last-night/#comment-15217 Tina W. Sun, 01 Jun 2008 19:42:08 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=3372#comment-15217 Man! You aren't kidding. It's that free floating anxiety that shows up at night that makes it the hardest sometimes being your own boss/income provider. It's subtle enough to just seem temporary but large enough to chip at sanity sometimes. Keep on fighting the good fight! T Man! You aren’t kidding. It’s that free floating anxiety that shows up at night that makes it the hardest sometimes being your own boss/income provider. It’s subtle enough to just seem temporary but large enough to chip at sanity sometimes. Keep on fighting the good fight!

T

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