Comments on: Being a bystander http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/05/19/being-a-bystander/ dawn friedman's blog Wed, 03 Dec 2008 23:21:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: kristen http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/05/19/being-a-bystander/#comment-14953 kristen Tue, 20 May 2008 13:21:09 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=3338#comment-14953 You know-abuse is abuse no matter how subtle. And denial adds to it all! But would I have the guts to say something? Hmmm now thats another thing. There was once a boy in my class that I never called on and I still wonder. But unless I was pretty certain ..I don't know. But talking about it seems to at least heighten awareness. Tough call You know-abuse is abuse no matter how subtle. And denial adds to it all! But would I have the guts to say something? Hmmm now thats another thing. There was once a boy in my class that I never called on and I still wonder. But unless I was pretty certain ..I don’t know. But talking about it seems to at least heighten awareness. Tough call

]]> By: Dave aka Silph http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/05/19/being-a-bystander/#comment-14948 Dave aka Silph Mon, 19 May 2008 21:13:12 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=3338#comment-14948 Dawn, I feel compelled to once again tell you how I *really admire* your way of bringing to air the /complex/ issues that isn't so easy to talk about. You definitely put the writing skill you're blessed with to use in brave ways. == Mostly we talk because talking almost feels like action. Analyzing every little thing seems a little bit like figuring out what to do next. == omg, bang on and insightful. Now that you say this explicitly, I know I totally relate to this. Dawn, I feel compelled to once again tell you how I *really admire* your way of bringing to air the /complex/ issues that isn’t so easy to talk about. You definitely put the writing skill you’re blessed with to use in brave ways.

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Mostly we talk because talking almost feels like action. Analyzing every little thing seems a little bit like figuring out what to do next.
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omg, bang on and insightful. Now that you say this explicitly, I know I totally relate to this.

]]> By: Dawn http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/05/19/being-a-bystander/#comment-14947 Dawn Mon, 19 May 2008 20:40:31 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=3338#comment-14947 No abuse issues here though. I shouldn't have used that example. No abuse issues here though. I shouldn’t have used that example.

]]> By: Barbara http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/05/19/being-a-bystander/#comment-14946 Barbara Mon, 19 May 2008 20:37:11 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=3338#comment-14946 I made a call when I simply could not stand by any longer. I then became embroiled in one hell of a he said/she said mess, but I KNEW from multiple sources that the caretaker was unsafe. The outcome was not as clear-cut as I would have liked, but I know that, if nothing else, that adult (as well as the people around him who suspected but did nothing) was on alert for ever after that his behavior was no longer a secret. I agree - the results from what you chose to do cannot be managed; you just do whatever you have to, anyway. Much good luck! I made a call when I simply could not stand by any longer. I then became embroiled in one hell of a he said/she said mess, but I KNEW from multiple sources that the caretaker was unsafe. The outcome was not as clear-cut as I would have liked, but I know that, if nothing else, that adult (as well as the people around him who suspected but did nothing) was on alert for ever after that his behavior was no longer a secret.

I agree - the results from what you chose to do cannot be managed; you just do whatever you have to, anyway. Much good luck!

]]> By: Dawn http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/05/19/being-a-bystander/#comment-14945 Dawn Mon, 19 May 2008 20:14:15 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=3338#comment-14945 Meg, that's a good way to think about it. (Divorcing my feelings from the results.) Thanks! Meg, that’s a good way to think about it. (Divorcing my feelings from the results.) Thanks!

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