Comments on: Non-moms worse than lesser-than-citizens? http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/05/09/non-moms-worse-than-lesser-than-citizens/ writing, mothering, writing about mothering Sat, 11 Oct 2008 08:51:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Karin Choi http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/05/09/non-moms-worse-than-lesser-than-citizens/#comment-14699 Karin Choi Sat, 10 May 2008 19:32:15 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=3321#comment-14699 My outrage is the the negation. By negating the mom you are negating the child negating love and effort and community and ultimately humanity. Marketing gurus are expecting that we robots who absorb advertising like it were water are just going to fall in line. The label "non" is so blatant. Have they not learned from long histories of telling groups of people they are "not" giving them derogatory labels. In this case they didn't even try to come up with something they just told us we are "not." My outrage is the the negation. By negating the mom you are negating the child negating love and effort and community and ultimately humanity. Marketing gurus are expecting that we robots who absorb advertising like it were water are just going to fall in line. The label “non” is so blatant. Have they not learned from long histories of telling groups of people they are “not” giving them derogatory labels. In this case they didn’t even try to come up with something they just told us we are “not.”

]]> By: Judy http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/05/09/non-moms-worse-than-lesser-than-citizens/#comment-14677 Judy Sat, 10 May 2008 14:41:51 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=3321#comment-14677 Oh, gotcha, Dawn. I never go to those so I'm blissfully unaware. Oh, gotcha, Dawn. I never go to those so I’m blissfully unaware.

]]> By: cynthia http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/05/09/non-moms-worse-than-lesser-than-citizens/#comment-14673 cynthia Sat, 10 May 2008 11:38:52 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=3321#comment-14673 couldn't agree more. and yes, good luck lisa. good lord. couldn’t agree more.
and yes, good luck lisa. good lord.

]]> By: Lisa V http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/05/09/non-moms-worse-than-lesser-than-citizens/#comment-14667 Lisa V Sat, 10 May 2008 06:07:33 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=3321#comment-14667 I meant Mallory's OBC- it's too late to be typing and I have too many teenagers surrounding me. Birthday party. 6 girls staying the night. God help me. I meant Mallory’s OBC- it’s too late to be typing and I have too many teenagers surrounding me. Birthday party. 6 girls staying the night. God help me.

]]> By: Lisa V http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/05/09/non-moms-worse-than-lesser-than-citizens/#comment-14666 Lisa V Sat, 10 May 2008 06:06:24 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=3321#comment-14666 Yeah, I'm toying with talking to Mallory and Noelle about going to court to get Mallory's OA as soon as she turns 18 or working with legislation here. The thing is that she knows all the information already, so I'm scared that legislators won't take us seriously. Open records REALLY bother me, even though both my children have their information through open adoption. I just think their has to be a mind shift in the general public. We shouldn't protect one class of people (birth parents) at the expense of another group (adoptees). It's basic civil rights. I think ultimately we should work to change birth certificates for adoptees so this is never an issue. Maybe there could be a caveat for dangerous situations. Those are few and far between so we should operate on the theory that everyone could handle the information, and if take those that need to be protected on a case by case basis. Those cases should go to court to close their records. Yeah, I’m toying with talking to Mallory and Noelle about going to court to get Mallory’s OA as soon as she turns 18 or working with legislation here. The thing is that she knows all the information already, so I’m scared that legislators won’t take us seriously. Open records REALLY bother me, even though both my children have their information through open adoption. I just think their has to be a mind shift in the general public. We shouldn’t protect one class of people (birth parents) at the expense of another group (adoptees). It’s basic civil rights.

I think ultimately we should work to change birth certificates for adoptees so this is never an issue. Maybe there could be a caveat for dangerous situations. Those are few and far between so we should operate on the theory that everyone could handle the information, and if take those that need to be protected on a case by case basis. Those cases should go to court to close their records.

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