Comments on: From the peanut gallery http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/02/23/from-the-peanut-gallery/ writing, mothering, writing about mothering Thu, 21 Aug 2008 21:21:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Amanda http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/02/23/from-the-peanut-gallery/#comment-7153 Amanda Tue, 26 Feb 2008 01:43:34 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/02/23/from-the-peanut-gallery/#comment-7153 I agree with you whole heartedly, Dawn and I love the way you can say something so serious, and so necessary (over and over and over again) in the voice you use. I do disagree slightly with the guilt thing... most of the middle-upper class white people I know could do with a sprinkling of white guilt in their lives - as it is, there are too many who are too freakin oblivious to their privelage. And this? As a person with a vagina, I have a particular interest in the systemic ways we punish women for being women. This is one of my favorite sentences. EVER. I agree with you whole heartedly, Dawn and I love the way you can say something so serious, and so necessary (over and over and over again) in the voice you use.

I do disagree slightly with the guilt thing… most of the middle-upper class white people I know could do with a sprinkling of white guilt in their lives - as it is, there are too many who are too freakin oblivious to their privelage.

And this?

As a person with a vagina, I have a particular interest in the systemic ways we punish women for being women.

This is one of my favorite sentences. EVER.

]]> By: chanie http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/02/23/from-the-peanut-gallery/#comment-7120 chanie Mon, 25 Feb 2008 08:24:08 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/02/23/from-the-peanut-gallery/#comment-7120 impressive that you have the patience to go through this. i think that's what makes you effective, and why you need to write the book! i do think the compassion and understanding are much better ways to deal with priveledge than guilt is. and the gray area is hard for some people to deal with, more complex, requires more subtle thinking. but ultimitely, more interesting, helpful, and true to life. i think anyway. impressive that you have the patience to go through this. i think that’s what makes you effective, and why you need to write the book!
i do think the compassion and understanding are much better ways to deal with priveledge than guilt is.
and the gray area is hard for some people to deal with, more complex, requires more subtle thinking. but ultimitely, more interesting, helpful, and true to life. i think anyway.

]]> By: T http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/02/23/from-the-peanut-gallery/#comment-7114 T Mon, 25 Feb 2008 03:15:27 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/02/23/from-the-peanut-gallery/#comment-7114 Ah, the black and white thinking. Wish I could still do that instead of negotiating the myriad of gray in between. Thanks again for your articulate addressing of the same old stuff. Ah, the black and white thinking. Wish I could still do that instead of negotiating the myriad of gray in between. Thanks again for your articulate addressing of the same old stuff.

]]> By: Dawn http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/02/23/from-the-peanut-gallery/#comment-7106 Dawn Sun, 24 Feb 2008 16:38:03 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/02/23/from-the-peanut-gallery/#comment-7106 And Suz, I don't even have funnybones to offer and yet you fraternize! (Your check is in the mail!) And Suz, I don’t even have funnybones to offer and yet you fraternize! (Your check is in the mail!)

]]> By: suz http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/02/23/from-the-peanut-gallery/#comment-7102 suz Sun, 24 Feb 2008 16:03:09 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2008/02/23/from-the-peanut-gallery/#comment-7102 Thank you for this and for all you do. I know you take alot of heat from your "side" for being able to see all sides. I liken it to the heat I take for fraternizing with the enemies (adoptive parents). Thank you for your compassion and for your ability to see that moms like me and the children we bear are people, humans, and not incubators or objects to be bought and sold to the highest bidder - as many agencies and prospective adopters would like to think. Thank you putting yourself out there and attempting to explain again what is wrong with adoption - specifically domestic infant adoptions (the field you and speak from only from different "sides"). Thank you for this and for all you do. I know you take alot of heat from your “side” for being able to see all sides. I liken it to the heat I take for fraternizing with the enemies (adoptive parents).

Thank you for your compassion and for your ability to see that moms like me and the children we bear are people, humans, and not incubators or objects to be bought and sold to the highest bidder - as many agencies and prospective adopters would like to think. Thank you putting yourself out there and attempting to explain again what is wrong with adoption - specifically domestic infant adoptions (the field you and speak from only from different “sides”).

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