Comments on: Following in my footsteps http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2007/10/30/following-in-my-footsteps/ writing, mothering, writing about mothering Sun, 07 Sep 2008 13:59:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Kohana http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2007/10/30/following-in-my-footsteps/#comment-6260 Kohana Wed, 31 Oct 2007 15:21:10 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1694#comment-6260 It's hard to find a program that's the right mix of everything: Good overall program, a good child-teacher match, educational goals, and classroom diversity, not to mention expenses. There are a couple programs here that I just love but I have a hard time justifying spending private school education range fees for preschool! I think I would do the same thing you are. If it is causing more stress than benefit for her and for you, then it just doesn't seem to be worth it. There's always next year. It’s hard to find a program that’s the right mix of everything: Good overall program, a good child-teacher match, educational goals, and classroom diversity, not to mention expenses. There are a couple programs here that I just love but I have a hard time justifying spending private school education range fees for preschool!

I think I would do the same thing you are. If it is causing more stress than benefit for her and for you, then it just doesn’t seem to be worth it. There’s always next year.

]]> By: Margie http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2007/10/30/following-in-my-footsteps/#comment-6259 Margie Wed, 31 Oct 2007 15:05:38 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1694#comment-6259 You have had a lot going on, wow. And I think you're working through this issue very wisely. Pre-school can be great for kids, but there are many ways to have similar social and educational experiences without actually being in a pre-school setting. For Madison, the fact that you have seen the impact of the stress and are taking action is much more important, I think, than having her "tough it out." And there's no reason why she can't try again another time, as you said. You have had a lot going on, wow. And I think you’re working through this issue very wisely.

Pre-school can be great for kids, but there are many ways to have similar social and educational experiences without actually being in a pre-school setting. For Madison, the fact that you have seen the impact of the stress and are taking action is much more important, I think, than having her “tough it out.”

And there’s no reason why she can’t try again another time, as you said.

]]> By: chanie http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2007/10/30/following-in-my-footsteps/#comment-6258 chanie Wed, 31 Oct 2007 06:22:52 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1694#comment-6258 so great that you are able to listen to her, and to yourself, to figure out what works and go with it. she's also learned that you trust her feelings and listen to her. so great that you are able to listen to her, and to yourself, to figure out what works and go with it.
she’s also learned that you trust her feelings and listen to her.

]]> By: Meagan Francis http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2007/10/30/following-in-my-footsteps/#comment-6257 Meagan Francis Wed, 31 Oct 2007 03:26:53 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1694#comment-6257 We are going through something similar w/William...he's just not really settling in at preschool: though he seems to have fun all day and be happy when I pick him up, during the hours that he's not there he obsesses about when he'll have to go back and gets really upset. He's latched on to nap/rest period as the big downfall of school and will beg "not to have to rest". I asked his teacher and she said he basically passes out when he hits the cot so it's not like he's just lying there bored the whole time. Sigh. Of course now I've worked out everybody else's schedule around preschool, so if I take him out, I have to rework absolutely everything else...so we'll stick with it a while longer. But if I were in your position and had any flexibility, I'd do the same thing you're doing. We are going through something similar w/William…he’s just not really settling in at preschool: though he seems to have fun all day and be happy when I pick him up, during the hours that he’s not there he obsesses about when he’ll have to go back and gets really upset. He’s latched on to nap/rest period as the big downfall of school and will beg “not to have to rest”. I asked his teacher and she said he basically passes out when he hits the cot so it’s not like he’s just lying there bored the whole time. Sigh. Of course now I’ve worked out everybody else’s schedule around preschool, so if I take him out, I have to rework absolutely everything else…so we’ll stick with it a while longer. But if I were in your position and had any flexibility, I’d do the same thing you’re doing.

]]> By: Karen M http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2007/10/30/following-in-my-footsteps/#comment-6256 Karen M Tue, 30 Oct 2007 19:49:28 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1694#comment-6256 What everybody else said - Madison sounds very happy, so that's all that matters. Is it an adoption issue? Probably. I can't imagine the revolving circle-o-teachers could have been good at all. It's also, I think, an issue of Madison looking and sounding older than she actually is. We've had that problem with Alena since...forever. It's slightly better now that she's in kindergarten, mostly because a lot of the boys in her class are roughly her size (she's 4'2" now, and slender for her height). But only slightly. I don't think she would have been ready for preschool when she was 3 - we had enough trouble with play groups, and I was right there next to her. What everybody else said - Madison sounds very happy, so that’s all that matters.

Is it an adoption issue? Probably. I can’t imagine the revolving circle-o-teachers could have been good at all.

It’s also, I think, an issue of Madison looking and sounding older than she actually is. We’ve had that problem with Alena since…forever. It’s slightly better now that she’s in kindergarten, mostly because a lot of the boys in her class are roughly her size (she’s 4′2″ now, and slender for her height). But only slightly. I don’t think she would have been ready for preschool when she was 3 - we had enough trouble with play groups, and I was right there next to her.

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