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Noah is sick. He caught something from cousin Frankie and he’s got a headache, the chills and a fever. He’s pretty miserable. I’ll be scarce here for a bit and scarcer still if it spreads to the rest of us.

This is my third post today. These are the things that conspired to make a bad mood much better. You see, one of my favorite people in the whole wide world is moving tomorrow and Friday was the last day I got to see her. It has certainly cast a shadow for me but I’m coming out of it (thank god for the internet — it means Wemberly is not lost to me forever!)

1. Kim.Kim gave me a great Tarot reading;
2. A vanilla and bergamot bath bomb from someone sweet;
3. An hour on the elliptical trainer;
4. We found a fabulous avocado but more spring-like green paint and finally painted the wall at the end of our long, skinny hallway, which now looks less long and skinny;
5. Two very nice children and an equally nice husband and a nice dog.

Orrielynn, my camera’s cord is missing so I can’t upload but when I do, I’ll do a picture post.

I’m actively looking for a web programmer to help me with Get Them Blogging. I wanted to launch in January but realized I need a stronger technical infrastructure. Brett and I are looking to hire a freelancer with php and mySQL experience who can help us build the site. I’m not looking for a web designer; I need someone who can program. The more I’ve thought about it, the more I think I need the kind of content management system that drive dating sites or social networking sites. If you are someone who can do this or know someone who can, will you please contact me?

I have been lucky that I haven’t been targeted by nasty commenters (mostly). There have been a couple of people who have obviously been using controversial comments as spam — trying to get people to say, “WTF???” and then click through to their sites to see what kind of lunatic would write such nonsense. Those I delete (there have been maybe three over six years of blogging). But the ones that strongly disagree with me, make assumptions about who I am or about Jessica? (Usually antiadoption activists) Those I leave.

Sometimes they make me wince. Sometimes I hit reply before I shake it off. I always approve them. You guys know I’m sympathetic to the antiadoption point of view even though I’m not antiadoption.

One thing though. I think it’s really important for the antiadoption activists to understand that to really institute adoption reform, you have to get to adoptive and would-be adoptive parents because it’s our money that drives the system — telling us how shitty we are likely isn’t going to cut it. Adoptive parents and wannabe adoptive parents who are reading through my blog archives (and I have been told that there are a few agencies that include a link to various blogs — including mine — as part of their training for adoptive parents) are going to dismiss vitriolic comments. You want to open their eyes? Find a way to share that doesn’t paint them as Satan incarnate.

I’m just sayin’.

The experiences of two adoptees: KimKim’s daughter L and Marlene’s daughter BJ!