Comments on: Answering a question http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/10/27/answering-a-question/ writing, mothering, writing about mothering Sun, 07 Sep 2008 07:09:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Nancy http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/10/27/answering-a-question/#comment-3427 Nancy Sat, 28 Oct 2006 22:50:57 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1036#comment-3427 Jessica's best friend is WAY cool, lol! Jessica’s best friend is WAY cool, lol!

]]> By: kim.kim http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/10/27/answering-a-question/#comment-3426 kim.kim Sat, 28 Oct 2006 15:14:32 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1036#comment-3426 I seriously doubt people would think Jessica and Madison are sisters. Jessica looks at her like a mother looks at her daughter, they are obviously mother and daughter. Those kind of photographers aren't properly human anyway, we all know that, they are like coach drivers or police officers, you never feel like you are talking to real people. I just think if everyone is awkward or not saying anything about adoption doesn't it make it seem like there is something wrong for Madison? When we had a photo taken back when I had a family, the photographer kept calling my aunt "mum" and she kept saying "Leonie" back to him but he ignored her. I only ask because I really don't know and am wanting to. Open adoption is still a very foreign concept to me. And I really hope it never sounds like I think you are less than fabulous because that goes without saying. I seriously doubt people would think Jessica and Madison are sisters. Jessica looks at her like a mother looks at her daughter, they are obviously mother and daughter.
Those kind of photographers aren’t properly human anyway, we all know that, they are like coach drivers or police officers, you never feel like you are talking to real people.
I just think if everyone is awkward or not saying anything about adoption doesn’t it make it seem like there is something wrong for Madison?
When we had a photo taken back when I had a family, the photographer kept calling my aunt “mum” and she kept saying “Leonie” back to him but he ignored her.

I only ask because I really don’t know and am wanting to. Open adoption is still a very foreign concept to me.

And I really hope it never sounds like I think you are less than fabulous because that goes without saying.

]]> By: Alyssa http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/10/27/answering-a-question/#comment-3425 Alyssa Sat, 28 Oct 2006 00:44:14 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1036#comment-3425 I think you handled it perfectly. I am like you-- I forget that on the outside our family may look confusing. To us it is just our family. I used to try to do the explanation thing, but I am much happier letting people think whatever they want to think. It is more fun that way anyway. :) I think you handled it perfectly. I am like you– I forget that on the outside our family may look confusing. To us it is just our family. I used to try to do the explanation thing, but I am much happier letting people think whatever they want to think. It is more fun that way anyway. :)

]]> By: Lisa V http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/10/27/answering-a-question/#comment-3424 Lisa V Fri, 27 Oct 2006 22:01:02 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1036#comment-3424 I used to look at Noelle in public situations and try to gauge her comfort with how open we were. Then gradually, over time we both began to look at Apple for direction. Apple ALWAYS steps right up to the situation and explains Noelle's relation. I think for her that it's just taken for granted because it's her only experience. Noelle and I both know that it can sometimes be awkward. With a stranger, it's often simpler to just smile and nod heads. I used to look at Noelle in public situations and try to gauge her comfort with how open we were. Then gradually, over time we both began to look at Apple for direction. Apple ALWAYS steps right up to the situation and explains Noelle’s relation.

I think for her that it’s just taken for granted because it’s her only experience. Noelle and I both know that it can sometimes be awkward.

With a stranger, it’s often simpler to just smile and nod heads.

]]> By: Jill http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/10/27/answering-a-question/#comment-3423 Jill Fri, 27 Oct 2006 20:45:32 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1036#comment-3423 I just wanted to say hello and that I'm glad that things with Jessica have gone from awkward to so comfortable. It is sensitive and thoughtful of you to let her decide whether to explain your relationships with each other when you all are out and about. I just wanted to say hello and that I’m glad that things with Jessica have gone from awkward to so comfortable. It is sensitive and thoughtful of you to let her decide whether to explain your relationships with each other when you all are out and about.

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