Comments on: All access (subtitled: Explode the Code) http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/10/09/all-access-subtitled-explode-the-code/ writing, mothering, writing about mothering Wed, 08 Oct 2008 11:31:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Religion and culture in an interfaith, transracial family at Anti-Racist Parent - for parents committed to raising children with an anti-racist outlook http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/10/09/all-access-subtitled-explode-the-code/#comment-3255 Religion and culture in an interfaith, transracial family at Anti-Racist Parent - for parents committed to raising children with an anti-racist outlook Mon, 17 Dec 2007 16:57:05 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1005#comment-3255 [...] goes back to an old post I wrote about American-Family and math camp. To be Chinese, her Chinese husband quite clearly says, means to go to math camp. So should all [...] [...] goes back to an old post I wrote about American-Family and math camp. To be Chinese, her Chinese husband quite clearly says, means to go to math camp. So should all [...]

]]> By: kim http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/10/09/all-access-subtitled-explode-the-code/#comment-3254 kim Wed, 14 Mar 2007 06:21:10 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1005#comment-3254 Dawn, you have an incredible spirit voice. 'Listening' to you explain the strategies behind your tactics, their motivations and ultimate goals (to open the door to choice, and to instill in your daughter cultural-based references to help her navigate the world as she will be perceived in many instances), I feel a little tired. It is scary to think that all of that is necessary, and I don't have an opinion, as I don't see the harm, yet understand that you work toward offering a benefit to your child. I would recommend a little place in Clintonville to you (don't know the name right now, sorry), because there was some diversity, though, amazingly, it was probably still a haven for comfortable green-families. But that may be 40 minutes from you, too. Keep us apprised. Dawn,

you have an incredible spirit voice.

‘Listening’ to you explain the strategies behind your tactics, their motivations and ultimate goals (to open the door to choice, and to instill in your daughter cultural-based references to help her navigate the world as she will be perceived in many instances), I feel a little tired.

It is scary to think that all of that is necessary, and I don’t have an opinion, as I don’t see the harm, yet understand that you work toward offering a benefit to your child.

I would recommend a little place in Clintonville to you (don’t know the name right now, sorry), because there was some diversity, though, amazingly, it was probably still a haven for comfortable green-families. But that may be 40 minutes from you, too.

Keep us apprised.

]]> By: art-sweet http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/10/09/all-access-subtitled-explode-the-code/#comment-3253 art-sweet Mon, 09 Oct 2006 19:26:12 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1005#comment-3253 Yes, Dawn, that makes perfect sense. It's funny, I have absolutely no problem with the thought of my child wanting to and choosing to seek out his/her firstparents and have a relationship with them. But the thought of my child converting? Obviously I've still got some work of my own to do. Yes, Dawn, that makes perfect sense.

It’s funny, I have absolutely no problem with the thought of my child wanting to and choosing to seek out his/her firstparents and have a relationship with them.

But the thought of my child converting?

Obviously I’ve still got some work of my own to do.

]]> By: dawn http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/10/09/all-access-subtitled-explode-the-code/#comment-3252 dawn Mon, 09 Oct 2006 19:17:24 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1005#comment-3252 I think you can teach your child about Catholicism culturally and intellectually. That gives them access (because they aren't ignorant about what Catholicism means to their birth culture) but doesn't dictate their experience. Then when your child is of age to make decisions, they will know where to go for more information and they will also know enough to know if they *want* more information. It's about choice and we're all going to make difference decision about how to give our kids access to choice. That's why I say that math camp isn't necessarily a right decision for every family raising a child whose birth culture is Chinese but KNOWING about math camp (because according to A, it's HUGE!) then gives the family choice and when the child is old enough, gives them choice. Does that make sense? (I hope I'm making sense. I've entered my afternoon brain slump!) I think you can teach your child about Catholicism culturally and intellectually. That gives them access (because they aren’t ignorant about what Catholicism means to their birth culture) but doesn’t dictate their experience. Then when your child is of age to make decisions, they will know where to go for more information and they will also know enough to know if they *want* more information. It’s about choice and we’re all going to make difference decision about how to give our kids access to choice. That’s why I say that math camp isn’t necessarily a right decision for every family raising a child whose birth culture is Chinese but KNOWING about math camp (because according to A, it’s HUGE!) then gives the family choice and when the child is old enough, gives them choice. Does that make sense? (I hope I’m making sense. I’ve entered my afternoon brain slump!)

]]> By: art-sweet http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/10/09/all-access-subtitled-explode-the-code/#comment-3249 art-sweet Mon, 09 Oct 2006 19:10:26 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=1005#comment-3249 Oh boy. I keep butting my head up against this one. It's important to me to raise my (Guatemalan) child in the warm and fuzzy, tikkun olam brand of Judaism that I grew up with. But by doing this, do I estrange him/her even further from his/her birthculture? I can't raise a child Catholic (or evangelical) in the same way that you can't raise Madison "black." Yet this is, most likely, an important part of my future child's birthculture. Ack. Oh boy.

I keep butting my head up against this one. It’s important to me to raise my (Guatemalan) child in the warm and fuzzy, tikkun olam brand of Judaism that I grew up with.

But by doing this, do I estrange him/her even further from his/her birthculture? I can’t raise a child Catholic (or evangelical) in the same way that you can’t raise Madison “black.” Yet this is, most likely, an important part of my future child’s birthculture. Ack.

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