Comments on: Domain name birthday

By: Poor_Statue

Poor_Statue — Thu, 03 Aug 2006 16:53:22 +0000

This is a really beautiful post. I love your description of the thumbs.

By: Jen

Jen — Wed, 02 Aug 2006 18:02:09 +0000

Dawn, this is the most gorgeous post. I do not know your experience but I still feel a bitter lump in my throat whenever anyone tells me, “he just needs to look at me to get us pregnant.” It’s all I can do to refrain from snapping “well how nice for YOU!”

By: Karen M

Karen M — Wed, 02 Aug 2006 13:04:34 +0000

Oh, yeah. Thanks for writing about this, Dawn!

Even after all this time, I’m horribly jealous of M. And I know she’s jealous of me as well. It’s not going to stop us from doing what we think is best for Big Girl - at least I hope not - but it makes things hard at times. I’m still jealous of pregnant women waltzing down the street, I’m jealous of breastfeeders…I need to stop this now.

Stay cool! We finally made it to 85 yesterday, so I can tell you there’ll be an end to the heat.

By: Angela

Angela — Wed, 02 Aug 2006 09:24:37 +0000

I was reading a book about being adopted and “K” asked what it was about. I talked about it and she said “you weren’t adopted” so I talked about how that was exactly why I was reading it so I could better understand. We then talked about how different we were (not just that it looks like she is the black adopted child of white parents but the fact that we are hispanic and that adds another difference…people look at us once because of the visual difference but the auditory difference makes them look again…the attention can be a bit too much at times) - anyway…all that (”I never could say anything in 20 words or less” - Concrete Blonde) to say that there are times I’m jealous of adoptive families that can “blend” in. Specially now that we are “on the road” - EVERYONE is focused on us. Can we handle it? sure…but I”m jealous of families that take the resemblance for granted. I’m also jealous of the contact my daughter has w/ her first mom (I wrote to her and now they are writing to one another until they can meet…I hope/expect that someday they will be able to have as many visits as they like) even though it is through letters. Her first “I love you too!” killed me although I know that the fact that her first mom was able to say “I love you” and that she was able to read it means a lot to both. Like you said…venting to my hubby? ok, venting to “K” or her first mom? Not ok. Like you, I know that this is the right thing for us no matter how jealous I may feel at times but its there. I know that when the time comes when they start to really bond I’m going to be grinding my teeth at night a lot, but I want this for them. I’m glad you posted this…I thought you didn’t feel this way so I felt a bit better knowing I wasn’t alone. I used to wonder if it was because I’ve never been pregnant, never knew what it was like to carry a baby to term and if this somehow made me feel more jealous and selfish with her…not sure if that made sense…but like if I had had a child through my body then I would be more understanding and willing to share her with her first mom. because I would have know how painful the separation was (?) ..so yeah…I’m glad you posted this. Thanks!

P.S. I was also jealous of birth dad at first but I’m way over it….we sort of adopted him too! I find myself worrying about him (medical issues) like I would for any family member….weird the way life turns.

Hugs

By: Jody

Jody — Wed, 02 Aug 2006 02:25:01 +0000

I can’t really imagine. But I’m so glad you share this stuff with us.

The Midwest thing mystifies me, too, because I really did grow up in the Midwest. But the western thing was a shifting target, and where you live used to be the Northwest Territories.

A lot depends on where you stand when you give a thing its name.