Comments on: More on Maddie http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/07/14/more-on-maddie/ dawn friedman's blog Mon, 13 Oct 2008 14:01:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Away2me http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/07/14/more-on-maddie/#comment-13648 Away2me Sat, 15 Jul 2006 11:50:26 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=2206#comment-13648 I totally get what you are saying about feeling lucky to be part of the process of a natural mom choosing you, even if they change their mind and decide to parent. That happened to us the first time and while I was dissapointed for us I remember trying not to cry on the phone because I wanted her happy for her decision and not sad for us. I don't agree about the whole it's only luck thing. People, women and men need to be resposible for thier reproductive lives. You can't rely on luck when you are taling about creating a child. We waited until we were ready to be good parents before we tried to get pregnant. Little did we know we were going to face infertility. I totally get what you are saying about feeling lucky to be part of the process of a natural mom choosing you, even if they change their mind and decide to parent. That happened to us the first time and while I was dissapointed for us I remember trying not to cry on the phone because I wanted her happy for her decision and not sad for us.

I don’t agree about the whole it’s only luck thing. People, women and men need to be resposible for thier reproductive lives. You can’t rely on luck when you are taling about creating a child. We waited until we were ready to be good parents before we tried to get pregnant. Little did we know we were going to face infertility.

]]> By: DD http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/07/14/more-on-maddie/#comment-13647 DD Fri, 14 Jul 2006 18:46:29 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=2206#comment-13647 It's been very hard for me to not to take our infertility "personal". As it's medical, it's not anything we really had control over. However, I think I would have a hard time not feeling as if a birth (first) mother's choice to place her baby with us as personal. That's one of the main reasons I know we just aren't ready yet for such a leap - a leap of faith to realize their choice is solely their own. Am I making sense? It’s been very hard for me to not to take our infertility “personal”. As it’s medical, it’s not anything we really had control over. However, I think I would have a hard time not feeling as if a birth (first) mother’s choice to place her baby with us as personal. That’s one of the main reasons I know we just aren’t ready yet for such a leap - a leap of faith to realize their choice is solely their own. Am I making sense?

]]> By: suz http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/07/14/more-on-maddie/#comment-13646 suz Fri, 14 Jul 2006 18:28:24 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=2206#comment-13646 oh, link away. i appreciate the traffic. i am no longer hiding. feel free to reference me, link when you want to, etc. oustanding post. love it. oh, link away. i appreciate the traffic.
i am no longer hiding. feel free to reference me, link when you want to, etc.
oustanding post. love it.

]]> By: Jackie http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/07/14/more-on-maddie/#comment-13645 Jackie Fri, 14 Jul 2006 18:21:52 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=2206#comment-13645 That all sounds very well-reasoned on your part, just like most of your adoption essays do-- brave and from the heart and much-thought-about. Your mom is one of my new heroes-- I hope I can be that kind of mom for my girls and their friends, that none of them will ever feel alone if they do have an unplanned pregnancy. That all sounds very well-reasoned on your part, just like most of your adoption essays do– brave and from the heart and much-thought-about.

Your mom is one of my new heroes– I hope I can be that kind of mom for my girls and their friends, that none of them will ever feel alone if they do have an unplanned pregnancy.

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