God bless the internets!
And LBZ and Eve for offering the services of others to help me with the survey!!!! I told LBZ that I’d try to straighten out my questions for her husband to look at this week.
I was thinking about this while I stared at Brett ranting and raving across the breakfast table (the guys who put in our new fence kinda made a mistake about something and Brett, being Brett, is blaming himself for not explaining it well even though it’s not his fault and he did a great job of getting this together). I think that what I’ll do is focus on hard-core info and then hit up some of my best interview subjects to help me illuminate the findings with narrative. Like DD, who gives GREAT interview.
I think (counting on my fat little fingers) that I can come up with five terrific interview people without trying too hard. And all have a variety of stories — from trying for fourteen months to trying for 5+ years (she’s still trying) and a variety of pregnancy loss experiences. Those five women were honest, thoughtful, funny and great storytellers. That’s a good start. Hopefully as I do more outreach for the surveys, I’ll find more people. But I guess it’s unreasonable to try to squeeze every single respondent for all I can get.
[tags]writing, secondary infertility[/tags]
Whew. I’m glad you ended that sentence with “interview” and not something else…
As I was catching up on my reading I noticed the post before about how we try to put on a brave front. I think we immediately go into a protect-mode and we have a hard time opening up even when we know that in doing so it can assist the healing. Even now, it’s easier for me to smile and say things are OK rather than to let the tears squeeze past and break into sobs. I don’t want the person who is asking to feel bad for thinking they made me feel bad. They don’t realize that for those of us struggling with whatever demons (IF, miscarriage, chronic illnesses, etc.), that the pain is always bubbling just below the surface.