Tea parties
Jun 1, 2006 Adoption
Jessica is coming over today and it’ll be the first time in a long time that Madison will get to see her without Noah trying to hog all the fun. Noah really really really likes Jessica and he can’t help but be a little overbearing when she visits. We’ve sat him down and reminded him that visits are a special time for Madison to have with her but he just can’t help it. He also loves to show Madison off and he just kinda inadvertently makes it harder for them to connect. Anyway, he’s got a playdate so he’ll be happily out of the way.
We were thinking of a zoo trip or a museum trip but then Madison pretended to call Jessica up and asked her to bring some candy. So I emailed Jessica and said that Madison was asking for M&Ms and maybe they could have an M&M tea party as a low-key event right here instead of the fuss that’s a field trip. Jessica said she was game.
Tea parties are kind of a thing with this adoption. It’s something that Jessica said she wanted to do way back when she was holding Madison in the hospital and rethinking placement. The very first mother’s day after Madison’s birth, I gave Jessica a tea set because I wanted to show her that I remembered that but I also wanted to give her something to have at her house that would symbolize that they would have a relationship. Then this last birthday her dad sent the tea set that Jessica played with when she was a little girl. She has fond memories of having tea with her grandmother. They would wear funny hats and be very solemn about it.
I just want them to have some downtime together with everyone (including me) out of the way. I’m hoping that without Noah’s manic excitement Madison won’t get shy. Off to clean Madison’s room!
June 1st, 2006 at 1:45 pm
I think the tea party is a very lovely way to recall those early memories of Madison.
There’s a great deal of symbolism in sharing tea in both the Western and Eastern cultures. How nice to have it take on a new facet within your lives.
June 1st, 2006 at 2:15 pm
Tea parties! LOVELY! My baby shower was a tea party theme. Complete with Great-Grandma’s silver tea set.
Let us know how it goes.
June 1st, 2006 at 3:20 pm
How lovely.
You really honor their bond with actions not just words. And it’s wonderful to witness it in some small way.
June 1st, 2006 at 3:25 pm
Dawn,
How lovely for Madison and Jessica to have tea together–for all the reasons you mentioned–and just because it is fun. I hope you get lots of pictures of the “ladies” in big ‘ole hats.
HMBalison
June 1st, 2006 at 6:25 pm
I’m so jealous! I can’t help it. but I wish you well. Happy tea!