Comments on: Some thoughts about edits http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/03/08/some-thoughts-about-edits/ dawn friedman's blog Fri, 21 Nov 2008 22:13:53 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: OnTheFence http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/03/08/some-thoughts-about-edits/#comment-13259 OnTheFence Fri, 10 Mar 2006 23:14:50 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=2074#comment-13259 Excellent article. I could relate to a good bit of it. When you left the hospital with Madison, it read like what happened between my husband and I when we left with Dylan in the rental van. I am glad you put that out there because I know other adoptive parents who could not relate to us feeling like that. Excellent article. I could relate to a good bit of it. When you left the hospital with Madison, it read like what happened between my husband and I when we left with Dylan in the rental van. I am glad you put that out there because I know other adoptive parents who could not relate to us feeling like that.

]]> By: wkh http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/03/08/some-thoughts-about-edits/#comment-13258 wkh Thu, 09 Mar 2006 21:54:36 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=2074#comment-13258 WOW I can't believe what people can extrapolate so I'll share my extrapolations.. I saw the country club and thought "Dawn is trying to show J is not some stereotype ghetto mama." I didn't mean that in a BAD way, like you were trying to show that in a ...token...? way, just, that you were giving info to bust what a LOT of people would think "young poor oppressed likely welfare mother" when they hear a young black woman is giving her child up. I'm sorry but it's true, people think that! What I got from the reunion was a sense, and likely because I'd read here first, that you were trying to show how J's family was NOT into the whole adoption thing, were scared of it, would have preferred she chosen to parent her child, but were coming to an acceptance. I felt the reunion part was more about YOU being accepted by J's family! I LOVED how you recognized the reality that Madison has parents who created her, and parents who are raising her, and they ARE ALL part of her life. (Well, okay, not her bio-dad, but, whatever. J's family). Very nice, if one has to sum up all your emotional angst and drama about the adoption in a 2500 word article, to do it how it was done. Just my nosey two cents. WOW I can’t believe what people can extrapolate so I’ll share my extrapolations.. I saw the country club and thought “Dawn is trying to show J is not some stereotype ghetto mama.” I didn’t mean that in a BAD way, like you were trying to show that in a …token…? way, just, that you were giving info to bust what a LOT of people would think “young poor oppressed likely welfare mother” when they hear a young black woman is giving her child up. I’m sorry but it’s true, people think that! What I got from the reunion was a sense, and likely because I’d read here first, that you were trying to show how J’s family was NOT into the whole adoption thing, were scared of it, would have preferred she chosen to parent her child, but were coming to an acceptance. I felt the reunion part was more about YOU being accepted by J’s family! I LOVED how you recognized the reality that Madison has parents who created her, and parents who are raising her, and they ARE ALL part of her life. (Well, okay, not her bio-dad, but, whatever. J’s family). Very nice, if one has to sum up all your emotional angst and drama about the adoption in a 2500 word article, to do it how it was done. Just my nosey two cents.

]]> By: chanie http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/03/08/some-thoughts-about-edits/#comment-13257 chanie Thu, 09 Mar 2006 19:19:03 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=2074#comment-13257 first of all, congrats on having this published! Must be strange having it 'out there' (where everybody can put their disconnected and baggage-filled comments up along with it. ugh.) i do think that even though i have been following your story on here, the article was interesting in that it summed up a whole bunch of things you've been talking about. thank you again for sharing your honest, complicated, messy, and beautiful thoughts with us all. first of all, congrats on having this published! Must be strange having it ‘out there’ (where everybody can put their disconnected and baggage-filled comments up along with it. ugh.)

i do think that even though i have been following your story on here, the article was interesting in that it summed up a whole bunch of things you’ve been talking about.

thank you again for sharing your honest, complicated, messy, and beautiful thoughts with us all.

]]> By: Brooklyn Girl http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/03/08/some-thoughts-about-edits/#comment-13256 Brooklyn Girl Thu, 09 Mar 2006 18:28:23 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=2074#comment-13256 It's a wonderful piece. Thanks so much for writing it. It’s a wonderful piece. Thanks so much for writing it.

]]> By: Toni http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2006/03/08/some-thoughts-about-edits/#comment-13255 Toni Thu, 09 Mar 2006 14:58:14 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=2074#comment-13255 Dawn: I've never been in a position to have to deal with reader mail. Gulp. I didn't wade through all of them, but man, what I did see was amazing in how effortlessly the points were missed. People carry with them their own assumptions and biases, I guess; this is just another example of that. I have a friend contemplating domestic adoption and linked to your essay. Truly, madly, deeply wonderful writing, Dawn. Dawn:

I’ve never been in a position to have to deal with reader mail. Gulp. I didn’t wade through all of them, but man, what I did see was amazing in how effortlessly the points were missed. People carry with them their own assumptions and biases, I guess; this is just another example of that. I have a friend contemplating domestic adoption and linked to your essay. Truly, madly, deeply wonderful writing, Dawn.

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