Comments on: Why I’m a pro-choice adopter http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2005/12/29/why-im-a-pro-choice-adopter/ writing, mothering, writing about mothering Sat, 30 Aug 2008 00:34:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: pickel http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2005/12/29/why-im-a-pro-choice-adopter/#comment-2609 pickel Mon, 30 Jul 2007 15:43:07 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=864#comment-2609 I got this article today through Chicago Moms Blog. I have an abortion/adoption article up there today. Excellent article. I got this article today through Chicago Moms Blog. I have an abortion/adoption article up there today. Excellent article.

]]> By: frog http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2005/12/29/why-im-a-pro-choice-adopter/#comment-2608 frog Fri, 30 Dec 2005 13:38:20 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=864#comment-2608 Excellent post. Thanks. Excellent post. Thanks.

]]> By: Lila http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2005/12/29/why-im-a-pro-choice-adopter/#comment-2607 Lila Fri, 30 Dec 2005 03:32:55 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=864#comment-2607 Just wanted to let you know how much I enjoy reading your blog. We (you and I) are very different people with very different views. But I love your blog because it makes me look at things with a different perspective and really think. Your thoughts challenge me. And your writing is terrific-you have a gift. You are very insightful. I loved this entry today- "it's not infertility that's so awful-it's not being able to control your fetility." I had never thought of this before. But you're absolutely right! I have infertility problems and my husband and I are in the process of adopting. This entry has been on my mind all day. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Just wanted to let you know how much I enjoy reading your blog. We (you and I) are very different people with very different views. But I love your blog because it makes me look at things with a different perspective and really think. Your thoughts challenge me. And your writing is terrific-you have a gift. You are very insightful. I loved this entry today- “it’s not infertility that’s so awful-it’s not being able to control your fetility.” I had never thought of this before. But you’re absolutely right!

I have infertility problems and my husband and I are in the process of adopting. This entry has been on my mind all day. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

]]> By: bj http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2005/12/29/why-im-a-pro-choice-adopter/#comment-2606 bj Fri, 30 Dec 2005 00:18:10 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=864#comment-2606 I too have become more pro-choice after having my two children. I always was, in a kind of vague way, but also thought there were a lot of reasons why you should tell people they shouldn't have abortions (that is, I thought there were good and bad reasons). After carrying my own much wanted children in my body, I feel that it is a deeply invasive act, to grow a child in your body, and can't imagine requiring it of anyone else unless it is their choice. I now can't imagine forcing a woman to carry a child in her body against her will, whatever her reason for making her choice. I'm also with you on the other side -- no woman should be forced to have an abortion, either, and society should do as much as they can to make sure that women have the choice not to have an abortion, to chose to "parent" or release their children to others. bj I too have become more pro-choice after having my two children. I always was, in a kind of vague way, but also thought there were a lot of reasons why you should tell people they shouldn’t have abortions (that is, I thought there were good and bad reasons). After carrying my own much wanted children in my body, I feel that it is a deeply invasive act, to grow a child in your body, and can’t imagine requiring it of anyone else unless it is their choice. I now can’t imagine forcing a woman to carry a child in her body against her will, whatever her reason for making her choice.

I’m also with you on the other side — no woman should be forced to have an abortion, either, and society should do as much as they can to make sure that women have the choice not to have an abortion, to chose to “parent” or release their children to others.

bj

]]> By: Marisa http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2005/12/29/why-im-a-pro-choice-adopter/#comment-2605 Marisa Thu, 29 Dec 2005 18:01:14 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=864#comment-2605 As far as I'm concerned, programs like WIC, Healthy Families, and the like are pro-choice programs through and through - as are the truly ethical adoption agencies that provide counseling, logistical support, and case management when it's needed for women considering an adoption plan. Choice has been co-opted to be about abortion (which is a choice I strongly support), but in reality it's about having the resources, knowledge, and tools to make a decision about a pregnancy without having to only consider the presence or lack of support. Obviously, our culture isn't there yet(or many women who make an adoption plan wouldn't have to make that choice), but one thing I think I can do personally to get us further down that path is to support women's choices in whatever form they come. As far as I’m concerned, programs like WIC, Healthy Families, and the like are pro-choice programs through and through - as are the truly ethical adoption agencies that provide counseling, logistical support, and case management when it’s needed for women considering an adoption plan. Choice has been co-opted to be about abortion (which is a choice I strongly support), but in reality it’s about having the resources, knowledge, and tools to make a decision about a pregnancy without having to only consider the presence or lack of support. Obviously, our culture isn’t there yet(or many women who make an adoption plan wouldn’t have to make that choice), but one thing I think I can do personally to get us further down that path is to support women’s choices in whatever form they come.

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