Comments on: Sibling spacing http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2005/12/10/sibling-spacing/ dawn friedman's blog Fri, 21 Nov 2008 23:21:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Katie http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2005/12/10/sibling-spacing/#comment-2510 Katie Wed, 18 Jul 2007 16:36:25 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=835#comment-2510 I am pregnant with my 4th child due the end of January and they will all be 18 months apart. Oldest will be 4/12, then 3, then 1 1/2 & newborn. We planned it this way and are thrilled. I have my own business and work about 35-40 hours/week. We have an au pair who is absolutely wonderful. My husband and I are both from big familes (6 & 7 kids) so we always wanted at least 4 children (and 4 will most likely be the final #!!). We have been blessed with healthy kids that all sleep (I have let them cry very early on and they all do learn how to sleep on their own). I think you can get through anything as long as you can get some sleep - important for baby & for parents alike. We are excited to have our house more full soon and sure, we might "have our hands full" [as others like to call it] but we'd take our hands full of adorable kids over so many other things anyday, anytime! Having a positive attitude can get you through anything! I am pregnant with my 4th child due the end of January and they will all be 18 months apart. Oldest will be 4/12, then 3, then 1 1/2 & newborn. We planned it this way and are thrilled. I have my own business and work about 35-40 hours/week. We have an au pair who is absolutely wonderful. My husband and I are both from big familes (6 & 7 kids) so we always wanted at least 4 children (and 4 will most likely be the final #!!). We have been blessed with healthy kids that all sleep (I have let them cry very early on and they all do learn how to sleep on their own). I think you can get through anything as long as you can get some sleep - important for baby & for parents alike. We are excited to have our house more full soon and sure, we might “have our hands full” [as others like to call it] but we’d take our hands full of adorable kids over so many other things anyday, anytime! Having a positive attitude can get you through anything!

]]> By: Kay http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2005/12/10/sibling-spacing/#comment-2509 Kay Tue, 13 Dec 2005 10:48:29 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=835#comment-2509 That T. Berry Brazelton, about most people think of starting again when their first is around 6 or 7 months seems spot on, based on the majority of my friends, but completely impossible to related to for me. Even when said friends were giving birth 9 months later I was nowhere near wanting to be pregnant again - I'd hold their babies and they'd tease me about being clucky but secretly I wasn't remotely interested and couldn't wait to hand them back! As to idea spacing, I replied with my experience (such as it is) on my blog... That T. Berry Brazelton, about most people think of starting again when their first is around 6 or 7 months seems spot on, based on the majority of my friends, but completely impossible to related to for me. Even when said friends were giving birth 9 months later I was nowhere near wanting to be pregnant again - I’d hold their babies and they’d tease me about being clucky but secretly I wasn’t remotely interested and couldn’t wait to hand them back!

As to idea spacing, I replied with my experience (such as it is) on my blog…

]]> By: Trolley Molly http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2005/12/10/sibling-spacing/#comment-2508 Trolley Molly Tue, 13 Dec 2005 07:23:11 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=835#comment-2508 Five years between the oldest daughter and the youngest. Wouldn't have had it any other way, although before the oldest was born I thought two years was the optimal spacing. Oldest one is in college now, and the youngest one in high school. They were very close from the start and after a few years when the oldest one was in high school and didn't like any of us, they are once again the best of friends. Five years between the oldest daughter and the youngest. Wouldn’t have had it any other way, although before the oldest was born I thought two years was the optimal spacing.
Oldest one is in college now, and the youngest one in high school. They were very close from the start and after a few years when the oldest one was in high school and didn’t like any of us, they are once again the best of friends.

]]> By: liz http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2005/12/10/sibling-spacing/#comment-2507 liz Tue, 13 Dec 2005 05:48:07 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=835#comment-2507 My family has almost the exact same spacing as yours, I have a son from my first marriage who is 24 and a daughter from my second who is 15, 95 years apart. Sometimes I joke that I ended up with a set of only children. Like you I benefited from having help from the older and the younger enjoyed being the baby of the family. The age gap and the gender gap really help me and them not to be competitive or to compare each other. My family has almost the exact same spacing as yours, I have a son from my first marriage who is 24 and a daughter from my second who is 15, 95 years apart. Sometimes I joke that I ended up with a set of only children. Like you I benefited from having help from the older and the younger enjoyed being the baby of the family. The age gap and the gender gap really help me and them not to be competitive or to compare each other.

]]> By: Lisa V http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2005/12/10/sibling-spacing/#comment-2506 Lisa V Mon, 12 Dec 2005 03:39:32 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=835#comment-2506 Mallory is 14 (today) Aubree is 11, Linley is 7 and Mason in 3.5. The oldest are 2.5 years apart, But the rest are close to 4 years apart. I don't know what is better. They all seem to fight and love each other. I know most of the time I feel 10 years is too much space between the oldest and youngest. Like today we went to the movies and had to find a sitter for Mason. I will be a parent to children at home for 29 years. That seems long. On the other hand, my two oldest are great babysitters that afford me a lot of freedom I didn't have when they were little. Nothing is perfect, however I think I wish they were 14, 12, 10 and 8. All of them 2 years apart seems easier to me. Mallory is 14 (today) Aubree is 11, Linley is 7 and Mason in 3.5. The oldest are 2.5 years apart, But the rest are close to 4 years apart. I don’t know what is better. They all seem to fight and love each other. I know most of the time I feel 10 years is too much space between the oldest and youngest. Like today we went to the movies and had to find a sitter for Mason. I will be a parent to children at home for 29 years. That seems long. On the other hand, my two oldest are great babysitters that afford me a lot of freedom I didn’t have when they were little. Nothing is perfect, however I think I wish they were 14, 12, 10 and 8. All of them 2 years apart seems easier to me.

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