Comments on: Thanks for letting me bitch

By: cluttergirl

cluttergirl — Thu, 25 Aug 2005 06:37:16 +0000

egads, I can so identify with what you said about feeling you need to make them cookies instead of sleeping etc, to pay them back for helping you out. I tend to do most everything myself. Though sometimes I express that I don’t have anyone to ask for help and the darndest people offer to help that I didn’t expect. And then I can be pretty much ok with accepting it. But I like tradeoffs where we are equal (like I babysit your dog and then you owe me one so I feel fine asking)… then I don’t feel like I am imposing. I hope you get some help offers that you can accept!

By: sarah

sarah — Thu, 25 Aug 2005 04:50:22 +0000

Wow, well said. And I hope you feel better. I’m not sure if I have commented before. I’ve enjoyed your site and your joyful kid stories (and the drama and the house lately and your writing too). I have been having a terrible week with the kids–no activities planned as it is the off weeks before school starts. And I think I placed it when I realized I was probably lonely–not that the kids weren’t a handful today. They were probably bored as well. But ask for help? Unheard of. I couldn’t look at the calendar and arrange some diversions with people I like? No sirree. Good luck.

By: suzoz

suzoz — Thu, 25 Aug 2005 04:34:09 +0000

Why do you usually cry after putting the phone down when N’s been invited on a playdate?

By: Michelle

Michelle — Thu, 25 Aug 2005 03:57:07 +0000

Hey, I definitely feel you on the sleep thing, the asking for help thing, all of it. Hope you start to feel better soon.

By: Momness

Momness — Thu, 25 Aug 2005 03:52:33 +0000

How about I wrestle you to the ground and beat you with help until you surrender? In an Internet sort of way, of course.

I’m rotten at asking for help, too. It’s a disease. Right now it’s being forced on me, and while I’m grateful, I’m guilty.

But vent at me any time. I’m serious. I’m here, hon, even if I reply a couple hours later.