Comments on: You know I could be working

By: Karen

Karen — Wed, 13 Jul 2005 21:52:58 +0000

I’ve thought about this issue before. Especially when I saw the paper that single moms have to sign asserting that they are most certainly NOT gay if they want to adopt from China. That really saddened me.

I’m mixed overall. I can see both sides–the side that says it’s okay to lie to a country about your sexual orientation, and the side that says it’s not okay, find another program.

Thanks for this discussion, Dawn.

By: Carey

Carey — Wed, 13 Jul 2005 18:23:04 +0000

A lie is a lie.

By: KenyaQ

KenyaQ — Tue, 12 Jul 2005 21:09:27 +0000

Hey Dawn,

As always you have raised a very interesting issue that has made me think and rethink. I would definitely lie to an agency with little or no remorse about certain issues. I would withhold information about my sexuality if I had to get my child from another country. I would not lie about my religion but i would withhold info if I had to. I would never ever ever lie to a birthmom/first mom. She has the right to know exactly where her child will be placed and with what kind of people. I would also lie to an agency if they seemed anti-co sleeping or anti-anti-vax. Again, I would not lie to a birthmom/first mom ever. I guess in the end though I would not adopt through an agency or from a country if I felt I would have to lie or withhold info.

By: Lisa V

Lisa V — Tue, 12 Jul 2005 16:25:43 +0000

Like Shannon, I just don’t believe sexual orientation is a choice.So to me it is different than struggling with a diet.

Amber, beautifully said.

By: Marla

Marla — Tue, 12 Jul 2005 15:19:40 +0000

I think those with more “flexible ideas” about the rules may put the program at risk. Will the ends justify the means then? Maybe I’m wrong. Time will tell.