Comments on: Dawn is getting old http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2005/04/08/dawn-is-getting-old/ writing, mothering, writing about mothering Sun, 07 Sep 2008 13:11:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Jessica http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2005/04/08/dawn-is-getting-old/#comment-12840 Jessica Fri, 08 Apr 2005 20:13:57 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=1502#comment-12840 Hi Dawn! I like reading infertility/adoption blogs even though I don't have kids yet and haven't tried to have them, because I find the subject/questions intensely interesting. Your blog is something special because of the transracial adoption/open adoption aspect. I really, really really admire all the soul-searching you've gone through, and Madison will be so grateful that nothing in her life or her origins will be a touchy little secret. I just read an article about the Vietnam orphans that were lifted out of the country 30 years ago and mostly adopted by American couples, who are now trying to find out their origins ... a hopeless undertaking for the most part. And these people will always wonder. Not because they weren't happy with their parents (most say they were) but because there's a hole in their story that they can't fill. My point? I love your blog, even if I'm shy and don't comment often. I love your writing and the way you confront things head on, and how you try to ensure Madison will have a maximum, not minimum number of people who love her; how you are considerate of biological grandfather's feelings and try to calm the fears of adopted grandma. It's really cool. Speaking as someone who's never heard of open adoptions and can now educate others about the concept (mostly thanks to your blog) "I" am very glad you're blogging. Thanks for taking us on this journey with you! Hi Dawn!

I like reading infertility/adoption blogs even though I don’t have kids yet and haven’t tried to have them, because I find the subject/questions intensely interesting. Your blog is something special because of the transracial adoption/open adoption aspect.

I really, really really admire all the soul-searching you’ve gone through, and Madison will be so grateful that nothing in her life or her origins will be a touchy little secret. I just read an article about the Vietnam orphans that were lifted out of the country 30 years ago and mostly adopted by American couples, who are now trying to find out their origins … a hopeless undertaking for the most part. And these people will always wonder. Not because they weren’t happy with their parents (most say they were) but because there’s a hole in their story that they can’t fill.

My point? I love your blog, even if I’m shy and don’t comment often. I love your writing and the way you confront things head on, and how you try to ensure Madison will have a maximum, not minimum number of people who love her; how you are considerate of biological grandfather’s feelings and try to calm the fears of adopted grandma. It’s really cool.

Speaking as someone who’s never heard of open adoptions and can now educate others about the concept (mostly thanks to your blog) “I” am very glad you’re blogging. Thanks for taking us on this journey with you!

]]> By: Carrie http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2005/04/08/dawn-is-getting-old/#comment-12839 Carrie Fri, 08 Apr 2005 14:43:13 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=1502#comment-12839 Heck, I miss the days before the blogs arose, and everybody (the few that consituated "everybody," that is) was hand-coding online journals. :-) Heck, I miss the days before the blogs arose, and everybody (the few that consituated “everybody,” that is) was hand-coding online journals. :-)

]]> By: LisaV http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2005/04/08/dawn-is-getting-old/#comment-12838 LisaV Fri, 08 Apr 2005 14:23:32 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=1502#comment-12838 Love the Flannery O'Connor quote by the way. She is my favortie. Would have had a child named Flannery but it rhymed with our last name. I can't understand all the finger pointing that goes on sometimes. I have the luxury of being an alumni, long before the internet was around. Otherwise I am sure I would be right in there with them. So I sit from the sidelines and am amazed that their are little wars about what someone writes about on their blog. I also have to admit that my feelings are hurt every time an IF blogger writes about how they couldn't possibly adopt. However, those are my feelings and her blog, so I move on. I know from my history that I wasn't willing to stay on the IF rollercoaster as long as many of them are. Different strokes for different folks, doobie doobie doobie. Love the Flannery O’Connor quote by the way. She is my favortie. Would have had a child named Flannery but it rhymed with our last name.

I can’t understand all the finger pointing that goes on sometimes. I have the luxury of being an alumni, long before the internet was around. Otherwise I am sure I would be right in there with them. So I sit from the sidelines and am amazed that their are little wars about what someone writes about on their blog. I also have to admit that my feelings are hurt every time an IF blogger writes about how they couldn’t possibly adopt. However, those are my feelings and her blog, so I move on. I know from my history that I wasn’t willing to stay on the IF rollercoaster as long as many of them are. Different strokes for different folks, doobie doobie doobie.

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