Yesterday went swimmingly
Here are my thoughts, written down right quick ‘cuz I have work to do, a shower to take, and a baby to adopt today!
1. I have great friends. I want to write more about my friends sometime so I’ll consider this a note to myself to remember to do that.
2. Pro-choice is not a monolithic movement; it’s a complicated moral stance that we reexamine on a regular basis. At the brunch we talked about (among other things) the way that parenthood changed our feelings about choice (for some of us, choice became more important; for others of us, we felt more ambivalence); the practical experience of working at a clinic (not all clinics are bastions of feminism, for example); and how some of us can both believe that a fetus is in fact a baby and still hold a pro-choice point of view.
3. I wish that more women had the opportunity to sit with like-minded women to discuss tough issues without the need to get defensive or the fear of someone getting offensive.
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ay, there’s the rub. I love to tell the story of my Irish-Catholic suburban Boston Mom who, upon hearing me say that I could never have an abortion, sputtered: “What? But you’re pro-choice!”
It doesn’t get any more misunderstood than that. I don’t think abortion could ever be the right choice for me, but damned if I’m going to stand in the way of another woman weighing the same decision. I live no one’s life but my own, and I respect others’ need to do the same.
Congrats…. Happy Final Day!
- Dana
For some reason, the part of your post I was responing to disappeared. It was this:
and how some of us can both believe that a fetus is in fact a baby and still hold a pro-choice point of view.
Go you, Dawn. Glad it went well. I used to date an OB/Gyn who fought for the training to do terminations in her residency and wore bullet-proof vests when she worked at the clinic. She firmly believed she was taking human life and the late term ones made her cry (after delivering babies most of the week, she was saddened by the ones that looked almost like them). But she said it was a sacred duty to provide this service to women who needed it. Not easy, not simple, not morally uncomplicated. She also felt it was distinctly a woman’s duty. She said “we bring life into the world and only we understand how profound it is to take it.”
She was a lousy girlfriend, but an excellent doctor.
Hey–wait a minute. A baby to adopt!?
That was sneaky!
BIG GIANT CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!