Happy First Mom’s Day!!!
May 8, 2004 Adoption
Our first First Mom’s Day went swimmingly. I would write more except for my newfound commitment to shut the heck up when it comes to other people’s specific lives.
In my extended family there have been some concerns raised by the openness of our open adoption — that we invite too much participation from J. I was thinking about that because it’s similar to some of the discussions we have on here. All I can say is that we feel this is all meant to be. It just keeps falling into place.
When I was picking out J’s present, there was the one thing I really wanted to get but it was a very loaded thing. It has all of these personal implications that I wanted to convey but I knew those implications were the kinds of things that freak people out. Specifically I knew that some of my loving and concerned family members (not Brett, not Noah) would express that loving concern if they knew what it was and I found myself standing in front of the thing thinking, “Are they right? Am I going too far?” Then I thought about how I’ve been wanting to get J. this since she placed Madison with us because I really want her to have it and I want her to understand all of those things that go along with it. Then I realized that its colors exactly matched the two (benign) smaller things I’d already been planning to get and I thought, “Well, clearly it’s meant to be.” So I got it.
I find that I worry more when I’m not talking to J. but then when we talk, it all relaxes for me. I told the most vocal of my loving, concerned family members, “We’re taking it one day at a time and so far it’s all working out.”
May 9th, 2004 at 9:59 pm
Let me be the first to say that I think you’re starting a great tradition with J., and Happy Mother’s Day to you too.
May 9th, 2004 at 10:17 pm
Happy Mother’s Day!
May 11th, 2004 at 1:12 am
Happy Mother’s Day.
I was adopted and back then it was taboo to speak of. Now I have met my birth mother, father and siblings. I speak of this all the time and if anyone is uncomfortable, I am sorry. This is who I am and our family is it. I am very proud and impressed with you and what you are doing and have done.
HUGS to you!