Comments on: Useful links for me http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2004/04/19/useful-links-for-me/ dawn friedman's blog Fri, 21 Nov 2008 13:00:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Dawn http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2004/04/19/useful-links-for-me/#comment-10894 Dawn Tue, 20 Apr 2004 21:46:19 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=1119#comment-10894 Actually guys, baby does co-sleep! It's the saving grace in all of this! But thank you for easing my built re., letting her nap alone occasionally. As someone who's AP-standards were pretty high when Noah was small, I am very humbled these days. Actually guys, baby does co-sleep! It’s the saving grace in all of this! But thank you for easing my built re., letting her nap alone occasionally. As someone who’s AP-standards were pretty high when Noah was small, I am very humbled these days.

]]> By: Toni http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2004/04/19/useful-links-for-me/#comment-10893 Toni Tue, 20 Apr 2004 17:10:15 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=1119#comment-10893 Wow, Erika, Anne and Barbara said it all! I really can't add on to their incredibly wise words except to say, "What they said!" Take good care, Dawn. Thinking of you. Wow, Erika, Anne and Barbara said it all! I really can’t add on to their incredibly wise words except to say, “What they said!”

Take good care, Dawn. Thinking of you.

]]> By: Laura http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2004/04/19/useful-links-for-me/#comment-10892 Laura Tue, 20 Apr 2004 16:58:47 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=1119#comment-10892 I really really agree with Annes statement as its so true as mother and baby have a kind of symbiotic relationship in my view. I really really agree with Annes statement as its so true as mother and baby have a kind of symbiotic relationship in my view.

]]> By: Erika http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2004/04/19/useful-links-for-me/#comment-10891 Erika Tue, 20 Apr 2004 13:03:13 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=1119#comment-10891 Whatever you do, do not buy that your child won't be appropriately attached to you if she sleeps in a bassinet. It is simply not true. I know about AP and followed many of AP ways of doing things (breastfeeding on demand, slings, etc.) but I could not co-sleep comfortably. Did my children wind up emotionally disconnected? No. And neither will yours, even if she sleeps every night in a bassinette or crib. Whatever you do, do not buy that your child won’t be appropriately attached to you if she sleeps in a bassinet. It is simply not true. I know about AP and followed many of AP ways of doing things (breastfeeding on demand, slings, etc.) but I could not co-sleep comfortably. Did my children wind up emotionally disconnected? No. And neither will yours, even if she sleeps every night in a bassinette or crib.

]]> By: Anne http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2004/04/19/useful-links-for-me/#comment-10890 Anne Mon, 19 Apr 2004 23:58:33 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=1119#comment-10890 You've stumbled across one of the tenets of parenthood, esp. motherhood, that seems to have been lost over the past few years. You, not the baby, must come first. The baby is incredibly important and absolutely needs your undivided attention - when she's awake, or hungry, or cranky, or sick, or happy etc, however you are the one providing all her needs. You can't possibly do that even adequately unless you are properly fed, rested and cherished yourself. I was trying to be everything to everybody with Baby #1 and put myself last constantly...until baby and I wound up in a mother's and baby's facility due to me being a nervous wreck. That's when I most painfully learned that if you don't look after yourself, you can't look after your baby. Sleep with the baby if that's what you're comfortable doing...put the baby in the bassinette if that fits better. The rights and wrongs are very simple. If you and baby are happy, it's right. If you and baby are unhappy then it's wrong, irrespective of what any other person has to say. You’ve stumbled across one of the tenets of parenthood, esp. motherhood, that seems to have been lost over the past few years. You, not the baby, must come first. The baby is incredibly important and absolutely needs your undivided attention - when she’s awake, or hungry, or cranky, or sick, or happy etc, however you are the one providing all her needs. You can’t possibly do that even adequately unless you are properly fed, rested and cherished yourself. I was trying to be everything to everybody with Baby #1 and put myself last constantly…until baby and I wound up in a mother’s and baby’s facility due to me being a nervous wreck. That’s when I most painfully learned that if you don’t look after yourself, you can’t look after your baby. Sleep with the baby if that’s what you’re comfortable doing…put the baby in the bassinette if that fits better. The rights and wrongs are very simple. If you and baby are happy, it’s right. If you and baby are unhappy then it’s wrong, irrespective of what any other person has to say.

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