Comments on: The unbelievable truth http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2003/12/31/the-unbelievable-truth/ dawn friedman's blog Thu, 04 Dec 2008 21:21:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Tiny Coconut http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2003/12/31/the-unbelievable-truth/#comment-9815 Tiny Coconut Fri, 02 Jan 2004 01:45:43 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=940#comment-9815 I say amen to all that...if you can walk the walk in addition to talking the talk. The problem with so many parents is that the level of judgmentalness is astonishing. The same people who support you because you decided to stay home judge me because I didn't. The people who say you can't be a feminist because you gave up a "career" for motherhood (and aren't those people just pitiful?) are matched in pitifulness by the people who say i can't be a good mother because I work or I don't cloth diaper or cosleep for very long or homeschool or whatever. And, unfortunately, many of those latter people are the LLL/AP folks who've made you feel so welcome. Wouldn't it be nice to just have a community of thoughtful moms, moms who are giving it their all, in whatever way that is? And isn't it sad that that's never going to happen? TC I say amen to all that…if you can walk the walk in addition to talking the talk. The problem with so many parents is that the level of judgmentalness is astonishing. The same people who support you because you decided to stay home judge me because I didn’t. The people who say you can’t be a feminist because you gave up a “career” for motherhood (and aren’t those people just pitiful?) are matched in pitifulness by the people who say i can’t be a good mother because I work or I don’t cloth diaper or cosleep for very long or homeschool or whatever. And, unfortunately, many of those latter people are the LLL/AP folks who’ve made you feel so welcome.

Wouldn’t it be nice to just have a community of thoughtful moms, moms who are giving it their all, in whatever way that is? And isn’t it sad that that’s never going to happen?

TC

]]> By: maria http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2003/12/31/the-unbelievable-truth/#comment-9814 maria Thu, 01 Jan 2004 02:41:25 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=940#comment-9814 My brothers have decreed that I'm no longer a feminist because I left my statistics job to stay at home. My former engineer SAHM friend and I have a good laugh over that. Then again, my youngest brother has also decreed me non-Christian since I don't think that all women should stay at home and that gay marriage is just fine. Needless to say, I don't listen to my brothers much. My brothers have decreed that I’m no longer a feminist because I left my statistics job to stay at home. My former engineer SAHM friend and I have a good laugh over that. Then again, my youngest brother has also decreed me non-Christian since I don’t think that all women should stay at home and that gay marriage is just fine. Needless to say, I don’t listen to my brothers much.

]]> By: Sarah http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2003/12/31/the-unbelievable-truth/#comment-9813 Sarah Thu, 01 Jan 2004 00:34:52 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=940#comment-9813 You mentioned Noah not sleeping through the night until he was 3+ and it's such a relief to hear that! My own son is only 10.5 months but he doesn't sleep through the night and doesn't seem to have any intention of doing so. I've been worried about it, wondering if I was supposed to "do" something about it, yet really not liking the options available to me. I feel such a sense of relief knowing that yes, some babies do this, some do it for a long time, and they still manage to turn out just fine! :-) I thought I was alone, with all other babies soundly sleeping for twelve hours at a stretch. It's so good to know that I'm not! You mentioned Noah not sleeping through the night until he was 3+ and it’s such a relief to hear that! My own son is only 10.5 months but he doesn’t sleep through the night and doesn’t seem to have any intention of doing so. I’ve been worried about it, wondering if I was supposed to “do” something about it, yet really not liking the options available to me. I feel such a sense of relief knowing that yes, some babies do this, some do it for a long time, and they still manage to turn out just fine! :-) I thought I was alone, with all other babies soundly sleeping for twelve hours at a stretch. It’s so good to know that I’m not!

]]> By: emily http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2003/12/31/the-unbelievable-truth/#comment-9812 emily Wed, 31 Dec 2003 20:27:19 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=940#comment-9812 Yep, yep, yep! I think about feminism a lot since becoming a mother, and am thankful for the perspective that being a SAHM has given me, because before having (my) Noah I was sure I would not stay home, and was rather critical of those who did. Feminism to me is about being able to choose what you want, not just choose what we could never have before. I hope my daughter feels similarly. Yep, yep, yep! I think about feminism a lot since becoming a mother, and am thankful for the perspective that being a SAHM has given me, because before having (my) Noah I was sure I would not stay home, and was rather critical of those who did. Feminism to me is about being able to choose what you want, not just choose what we could never have before. I hope my daughter feels similarly.

]]> By: Eden http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2003/12/31/the-unbelievable-truth/#comment-9811 Eden Wed, 31 Dec 2003 17:23:46 +0000 http://thiswomanswork.com/?p=940#comment-9811 I absolutely agree with Kim. And you : ) Happy New Year Year! I absolutely agree with Kim. And you : )

Happy New Year Year!

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