Paths to serenity
May 29, 2003 Infertility
MomBrain has a nice entry about having an only child up right now.
I know have lurker readers who have come here through one of the infertility webrings or via a search engine. I know that for some of you, the idea of finding peace without a baby seems impossible, even hateful. I know that with so many of the other women on those same webrings getting pregnant (hooray!) that it can be even harder to contemplate letting go of that dream.
I want those of you who wander in here to know that life will be ok again. You may get that child you so desperately want. You may not. You may find that child will come to you in a way that wasn’t expected. But I promise you that you will find peace eventually. You will. Hang in there.
May 30th, 2003 at 7:34 pm
I’ve been a lurker of yours for about a week now and I wanted to let you know how much I enjoy your blog.
We tried to have a biological child for 3 1/2 years before turning to adoption. I thought I’d hurt until we had a child, but truthfully the healing started as soon as we made the decision to end fertility treatment. There were times when I thought this crisis would ruin my life, but it only made me stronger.
I especially like this post because it’s so true. Whenever and however you resolve your infertility, you will be happy again. People going through fertility treatment (or the adoption process) need to tell themselves this as often as possible.