$$$ frustrations
Mar 24, 2003 Adoption
We don’t have the full cost of the homestudy ready to go because we’re waiting on our tax return. The agency just called and said that unless we get our check in by Friday, we’ll need to wait until June to get our homestudy started.
I’m of two minds about this. Of course I want to get going NOW, gosh darnet, but Brett and I are really trying hard to take this as it comes and not go crazy trying to force things through. Maybe June would be better. It’s more than our IRS check anyway, we also need some writing checks. I’m paid up on what I was owed but there were, what, like three weeks that I was “out of work” while we waited for the magazine to get things in order again and so I’m behind on my budget. I’ll probably be paid right after the deadline for the money. So I could, in theory, ask my mom to loan us the money because we’re good for it and she has it and she probably wouldn’t mind.
I hate to do that.
Maybe there’s a reason we’re supposed to wait, you know? Maybe June is a better time to get started.
I’m waiting to hear on a job possibility that would be a lot more work (maybe) but also a lot more money. I think the work will be messy and strange and hard at first but then I think it’ll get into a good routine that will give me more mommy-room than I have now. I should have a better idea about what’s going on there by the end of this week.
If I wait until June and I do get this job, we’ll be much more comfortable financially and that will look good on a homestudy. That also gives us more time to get things together before the baby arrives. On the other hand, there’s not much we have to get together. Part of me is thinking that if we’re meant to start our homestudy on Friday, that the money will arrive. It’s not like we’re not expecting the money, you know? It’s there, it’s just not in our pockets yet. So maybe there’s a reason that it’s still out there instead of here. Maybe right now is not time to start.
I’m surprised I’m not more upset about this. I might be more unhappy about it later but I know our baby is coming to us and the timing, I’m sure, will all work out.
One of our social workers said that she sees the hand of God in every adoption. She says that from her end she’s privvy to amazing coincidences that aren’t always apparent to the parties directly involved.
I’ll have to talk to Brett about it and see what he thinks.
March 25th, 2003 at 10:47 pm
I wonder why they are so eager for $money…?
March 26th, 2003 at 10:21 am
It’s just how it works. The homestudy is $1300 and it’s the only thing we’ll have to pay. The rest is billed against subsidies that don’t come out of our pocket. The homestudy requires a lot of work on the part of a (poorly paid) social worker and I think it’s reasonable for them to want it before they start their side of it.