Comments on: What Dirt said http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2002/09/13/what-dirt-said/ dawn friedman's blog Fri, 21 Nov 2008 20:35:41 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Barbara Ray http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2002/09/13/what-dirt-said/#comment-236 Barbara Ray Mon, 16 Sep 2002 06:54:40 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=164#comment-236 I vote for the biological explanation. From what I've read, animal step-fathers frequently kill the existing offspring of their new mates. This has the effect of him not putting any energy into raising another male's offspring and preparing the mother to put all her energy into his offspring. Some recent news accounts of murders of offspring by mom's new boyfriend have made me think this may be an instinctual pattern followed by humans as well. I am a step-daughter who had a father who scorned me and refused me any encouragement and support. However, from what I've learned as an adult, I feel grateful that I wasn't physically or sexually abused by my step-father as happens to many step-daughters. I vote for the biological explanation. From what I’ve read, animal step-fathers frequently kill the existing offspring of their new mates. This has the effect of him not putting any energy into raising another male’s offspring and preparing the mother to put all her energy into his offspring. Some recent news accounts of murders of offspring by mom’s new boyfriend have made me think this may be an instinctual pattern followed by humans as well.

I am a step-daughter who had a father who scorned me and refused me any encouragement and support. However, from what I’ve learned as an adult, I feel grateful that I wasn’t physically or sexually abused by my step-father as happens to many step-daughters.

]]> By: Lisa http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2002/09/13/what-dirt-said/#comment-235 Lisa Mon, 16 Sep 2002 04:23:15 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=164#comment-235 It is very interesting to hear your side of the fence. Since I have always had ill feelings about your dad for years. I have always found him to be insensitive to the needs of others, especially woman. And this is quite a sad state to be in since he has 6 children 5 of which are woman as you know all toooo well. I am luck to have a stepmom that is caring but doesn't try to mother me since we are only 6 years apart in age. I have a half sister who is 28 years younger than me. However she does know who I am and our brother. It is very interesting to hear your side of the fence. Since I have always had ill feelings about your dad for years. I have always found him to be insensitive to the needs of others, especially woman. And this is quite a sad state to be in since he has 6 children 5 of which are woman as you know all toooo well. I am luck to have a stepmom that is caring but doesn’t try to mother me since we are only 6 years apart in age. I have a half sister who is 28 years younger than me. However she does know who I am and our brother.

]]> By: sarah/unicorn http://www.thiswomanswork.com/2002/09/13/what-dirt-said/#comment-234 sarah/unicorn Sun, 15 Sep 2002 02:37:06 +0000 http://www.thiswomanswork.com/?p=164#comment-234 I'm sort of on the other side of the fence. I'm technically a stepmom, but I am definitely not a stepMOM. For reasons I won't get into online out of respect for dh and his son, I have spent a total of maybe 5 hours with his son. It's really hard, knowing the way that we live and how happy he might be with us, not getting the opportunity to know him. It sucks to be on either side of the fence, I guess. I’m sort of on the other side of the fence. I’m technically a stepmom, but I am definitely not a stepMOM. For reasons I won’t get into online out of respect for dh and his son, I have spent a total of maybe 5 hours with his son. It’s really hard, knowing the way that we live and how happy he might be with us, not getting the opportunity to know him. It sucks to be on either side of the fence, I guess.

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